To be sad about the state of my family?

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No relationship with father, traumatic and complex there.
Mother and sister have an awful relationship which causes me a hell of a lot of pain. No other siblings. No family of my own, no partner or children. I see other families around me and I know no family is perfect but Families that just get by and are there for each other through life's ups and downs. I wish I had that.

I hear ya OP

Apart from being an only child I’m in exactly the same position as you ❤️

Im sorry to hear that. Its rough. Its really hard.

I'd hoped for some more replies to see people's points of view

Thanks OP I used to think that I had a bad family situation cos I had no siblings - but clearly that’s not the case

With me - my mum was an alcoholic and narcissist- and always miserable - my Dad enabled her

they were both only children so am I

I used to be so envious of other families

I did have a relationship with my father but he enabled my alcoholic narcissistic mother

YANBU. I've never had a close relationship with my parents and siblings. I do often feel sad and used to also feel very envious seeing families who are close to each other.

Ah your's is a sad message really. I was lucky, we didn't have a perfect family by any means but we all really cared for each other & we knew we had each others backs. And that got us through the best & worst of times.

I feel for you OP, & wish you the very best, I don't know what else to say....

My dm is abusive and has created a toxic atmosphere, pitting people siblings against one another. They've caused me so much pain over the years it has made me chronically ill. I dread seeing them.

Dh and dc on the other hand have been a lifesaver. I'm very lucky in that respect.

It is incredibly sad. It doesn't mean you can't have that - you just have to build it for yourself out of people who aren't related to you by blood but who are nevertheless your people. They're out there. My foster son felt very like you - now he has a mum (me), two siblings, a fiance and a family in law as well as a tribe of people with whom he shares passions and interests. Your people are out there somewhere and they may well be closer than your blood relatives ever could be.