To think that I should be in at least one photo with DD.

MrsTittleMouse · 26/05/2008 12:04

Nah, I seem to be the photographer in our family too. In fact I recently forced DH out of bed () in order to take some of me with DD. Your family hasn't done it on purpose though, just force the camera into their hands whenever you are feeling like you look particularly nice.

Bucharest · 26/05/2008 12:04

I don't have many of me with my child, but mainly because I'm normally weilding the camera!

MrsTittleMouse · 26/05/2008 12:05

Oh, I see, you have photos of you and DD, it's just that you MIL doesn't see fit to display them. That is annoying, but in the grand scheme of things it's probably best letting it go.

WendyWeber · 26/05/2008 12:05

If there are pictures of you with DD which she could have used then YANBU, pg hormones or not.

SNoraWotzThat · 26/05/2008 12:05

Over little over sensitive. Send her one.
The one on your profile with your Dh/Dp is lovely, send her that in a card made by DD and post it to her. Make a card with DD's handprint on it in paint or something like that and pop the picture inside.

MARGOsBeenPlayingWithMyNooNoo · 26/05/2008 12:10

This reminds me of my 21st. (only a couple of years ago ) I gave my dad my camera to take photos and my (now ex-)uncle was in loads - I was in about 3.

Anyway - my aunt (ex-wife of the above mentioned uncle) had her 60th birthday party, she left loads of disposable cameras out for guests to take photos. My dad and (yet another) uncle took loads of photos of eachother. It didn't please my aunt, especially as she had to pay for developing the camera. My dad is very naughty.

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KnickersOnMaHead · 26/05/2008 12:10

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Pollyanna · 26/05/2008 12:17

my mil did this too - she gave me an album of dd2 when she was newborn (mostly at my house) and all the pictures were of her/my dh/my fil and my children. I wasn't in one of them! (no mean feat when I spent most of the time holding/feeding dd2)

I thought it was quite funny really (my mil has ishoos with me ).

ThinWhiteDuchess · 26/05/2008 12:25

YANBU. I felt the same with my own mother when DD was born. She was forever taking photos of DD, but never once took one of the two of us. I was really upset when my brother came round when DD and I were visiting and DM was insistent that she took loads of photos of DB and my DD together!! I flipped! SNora made a very good suggestion (and one I may well use with my mother!!).

EssieW · 26/05/2008 12:55

aah yes that sounds familiar.

MIL chose photos of our wedding - paid for 4. Only 1 with me in - the rest of her darling DS.

I have also been cut out of a photo of my and DS. If I was being nice about it, it was so the photo of DS fitted in a tiny frame, But it was a gorgeous photo of us both (my favourite) on the Cornish coast.

EssieW · 26/05/2008 12:55

aah yes that sounds familiar.

MIL chose photos of our wedding - paid for 4. Only 1 with me in - the rest of her darling DS.

I have also been cut out of a photo of my and DS. If I was being nice about it, it was so the photo of DS fitted in a tiny frame, But it was a gorgeous photo of us both (my favourite) on the Cornish coast.

wooga · 26/05/2008 15:38

When I married exh,his gran sulked about being in the group photos-pulling faces like a 2yr old-which spoilt the pics.

Completely different story though,when she asked our photographer to take a picture of her and 'her boys'-my exh,his brother and cousin with her-she sat down and smiled nicely for the photo.She has it framed and displayed proudly on her shelf!

An additional bonus to not having to put up with exh anymore is that I don't have to see his family either!

TsarChasm · 26/05/2008 16:05

There aren't many pictures with me with dc when they were newborn. You'd think they'd arrived on the bus considering the absence of anyone looking like their mummy in any of the photos.

I regret it hugely. There are photos of them with every Tom Dick and Harry though. I push myself into photos much more nowadays, but I feel v sad I'm not in more of them when they were babies.

To OP If there were picture of you but you are being edited out in favour of Sil then yes I'd be pretty upset too. Maybe it is being too sensitive, but hey that's the kind of thing I (and you too it seems) get sensitive about.

Mind you my mil has a talent for being incredibly insensitive too. She means well though That's the mantra I keep telling myself anyway

Make sure you put lots of photos around your own home with you in them!

cheekymonk · 26/05/2008 16:23

I remember my "friend" asking why I had put a particular photo of ds and me in our album as "I looked tired" FFS!!!! scuse me for not being glamorous after induction, only gas and air, getting to 2nd stage of labour only to result in emergency section anyway!!!!
Alot of the photos show my mum looking fantastic and very much centre stage whilst I am on the edge. She was first to hold ds too so the whole thing took a while to get over. I agree in the grand scheme of things it isn't important but anything or anyone that makes you feel marginalised or unimportant needs to be acknowledged so you can work out how to accept it.
Us mums do need to fight our corner sometimes!

Hulababy · 26/05/2008 16:28

We have this problem - a I tend to be the ne taking the photographs. Also i hate my picture being taken.

However I have deliberately made sure we do every so often take photos of me with DD and with DH too - just in case anything should happen to me, I want DD to have soem photos of us together.