Aggressive child . AIBU?

[Worriedmum67]

Hi all,
I’m really upset and would appreciate some advice or perspective. My reception aged child was bitten quite badly by a nursery child during playground time (the two year groups share an outdoor space). The bite broke the skin and caused bleeding which I find really shocking.
This isn’t the first time this particular little girl has hurt others. From what I’ve heard, she has also hit both girls and boys before. My son tells me this child often breaks things at school too, so it seems like there’s a pattern of aggressive behaviour.
The school and nursery staff apparently suspect the child may have additional needs, but the mother is strongly against any assessments or support. She’s very adamant that nothing is wrong. They are from east europe , so perhaps there are cultural reasons influencing her response, though obviously that doesn’t excuse behaviour that puts other children at risk.
I’ve requested a meeting with the headteacher because I honestly don’t understand why this keeps happening. Why isn’t supervision better? Why hasn’t more been done to keep the other children safe? I know accidents happen, especially with very young children, but this is starting to feel like more than that and now my child has been left with an actual injury.
Has anyone experienced anything similar? What should I be asking or pushing for in this meeting? I’m not trying to cause trouble , I just want to make sure my child, and others, are being protected properly.
Thanks for reading.

In the meeting just ask how do they plan to keep your child safe? Better supervision, higher staff ratio, the year group kept apart/having break at different times?

If you’re happy with what they plan to put in place (they won’t actually discuss this girl ,any needs she might have or anything like that) then great. If not, or you don’t trust your child to keep your child safe and this is something that is likely to happen again in the future, you might want to start looking at other schools.

You need to discuss what measures will be put in place to keep your child safe. That is all they will discuss. They aren't going to discuss the other child's needs or behaviour.

If you are happy with their plan then see how it goes. If you aren't then you may need to start looking for a different school.

I do find it strange that you say she has hit both boys and girls... a kid that is struggling doesn't think about gender. That is an adult point of view.

Its really hard to stop a biter even when you are 1:1.
Of course have a meeting with the school and ask what can be put in place to protect your dc

Its really hard to stop a biter even when you are 1:1.
Of course have a meeting with the school and ask what can be put in place to protect your dc

Document every thing. Pictures, medical reports.. It may end up helping all the children if the biter gets more support at school.