Meet the Other Phone. Child-safe in minutes.

Meet the Other Phone.
Child-safe in minutes.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Pulling a sickie

84 replies

TwinTantrums · 10/07/2025 12:39

Basically, I’m planning to pull a sickie from a job that won’t let me use annual leave for a day off. I’m leaving anyway. New job secured. Reassure me it’s not the totally unreasonable thing to do!

OP posts:
Thunderpants88 · 10/07/2025 13:25

Take a week off and say it’s stress as that’s what it sounds like

TwinTantrums · 10/07/2025 13:27

Thunderpants88 · 10/07/2025 13:25

Take a week off and say it’s stress as that’s what it sounds like

This would go down really, really badly

OP posts:
ObliviousCoalmine · 10/07/2025 13:40

You’re better off taking more than one day. Stomach bugs take a couple of days at least. Just don’t get spotted in Sainsbury’s buying wine.

BumpyWinds · 10/07/2025 13:41

TwinTantrums · 10/07/2025 12:44

Yes. It makes no sense. They’d rather pay me out than have a day off! It feels like a punishment

Ha! I must be tight! I realised recently that a departing employee had holiday left that was going to cost me about £750 if left unused, so we asked him to use it instead (which wasn't difficult as he'd already done the majority of his handover with time to spare).

As long as you stick within your self-certification period of sickness and you don't need any sort of references, I'd do the same in your shoes and not feel guilty about it.

TwinTantrums · 10/07/2025 13:42

ObliviousCoalmine · 10/07/2025 13:40

You’re better off taking more than one day. Stomach bugs take a couple of days at least. Just don’t get spotted in Sainsbury’s buying wine.

The actual reason won’t be D&V, but my health condition is outing!

OP posts:
TwinTantrums · 10/07/2025 13:42

BumpyWinds · 10/07/2025 13:41

Ha! I must be tight! I realised recently that a departing employee had holiday left that was going to cost me about £750 if left unused, so we asked him to use it instead (which wasn't difficult as he'd already done the majority of his handover with time to spare).

As long as you stick within your self-certification period of sickness and you don't need any sort of references, I'd do the same in your shoes and not feel guilty about it.

That’s about what I’m due.

I’ve had my reference and a new job is secure

OP posts:
Summerartwitch · 10/07/2025 13:53

Go for it.

You are leaving and your employer seems to be the petty type, so I would have no issues with taking a day off.

In fact in your shoes I would take more than just one day.

I always think that a decent employer that treats me fairly deserves good behaviour back from me, but a crappy/toxic one can just reap what they sow.

Jeezitneverends · 10/07/2025 14:01

TwinTantrums · 10/07/2025 13:23

Is it really that controversial??

It can be at times on here, but the replies to the thread have been refreshingly realistic!

TwinTantrums · 10/07/2025 14:06

Jeezitneverends · 10/07/2025 14:01

It can be at times on here, but the replies to the thread have been refreshingly realistic!

I have to admit I was expecting more pushback!

OP posts:
TwinTantrums · 10/07/2025 14:06

Summerartwitch · 10/07/2025 13:53

Go for it.

You are leaving and your employer seems to be the petty type, so I would have no issues with taking a day off.

In fact in your shoes I would take more than just one day.

I always think that a decent employer that treats me fairly deserves good behaviour back from me, but a crappy/toxic one can just reap what they sow.

Yeah I don’t think they’re owed a lot after how they’ve treated me lately

OP posts:
Lonelydave · 10/07/2025 14:06

I'd say not a problem, it will depend on when payroll runs etc.., as you are leaving there are other bits and pieces to sort out, so if you are at payroll time, it makes sense for you not to take any leave, as this will flop over to next month, and you're not there (?).
It could be a boring admin/hr thing, or it could be your boss is an arse - either way, take a sickie, notice in, not gross misconduct at all!

TwinTantrums · 10/07/2025 17:26

Lonelydave · 10/07/2025 14:06

I'd say not a problem, it will depend on when payroll runs etc.., as you are leaving there are other bits and pieces to sort out, so if you are at payroll time, it makes sense for you not to take any leave, as this will flop over to next month, and you're not there (?).
It could be a boring admin/hr thing, or it could be your boss is an arse - either way, take a sickie, notice in, not gross misconduct at all!

I’m here for a while longer. I think they’re just trying to punish me for handing in my notice

OP posts:
PeloMom · 10/07/2025 17:29

Wednesday to Friday and opps it’s the weekend. Definitely will be better by Monday

TwinTantrums · 10/07/2025 17:54

PeloMom · 10/07/2025 17:29

Wednesday to Friday and opps it’s the weekend. Definitely will be better by Monday

A five day weekend sounds idyllic right now

OP posts:
Velmy · 10/07/2025 19:42

TwinTantrums · 10/07/2025 13:17

I’d be willing to take it all!

They’re 100% punishing me for handing my notice in. But their reasoning is business reasons, so I don’t know if I really have a leg to stand on

What are the business reasons? Unless they are denying all other relevant employees AL at that time for the same reasons, you're being treated differently and you don't have to put up with that.

Have you checked your contract? I've only ever heard of AL during a notice period being 'frowned upon', never seen a contractual ban on it. In fact the only time I can recall seeing it mentioned contractually is when the company makes you take any accrued AL instead of paying it out.

In terms of your legal position - technically they could sue you if you just walked out tomorrow and it caused a detriment to the company, however this is extremely unlikely. For example, if you were due to deliver a project and as a direct result of you not doing so, the company lost a client or suffered financial penalties. They would absolutely not take legal action against you for taking one day off.

They could put you through disciplinary/sack you if they deem it gross misconduct. Obviously you're under no obligation to engage with a disciplinary process, but it could be mentioned on your reference. Again though, it's very unlikely as it's a waste of time and effort on their part.

Do you even need a reference if your job is secure?

My recommendation (once you've checked your contract) would be to tell - not ask - them that you will be taking that day off. Tell them you're not aware of anything in your contract preventing you from taking AL during your notice. Tell them that any business need must be applied fairly and equally to all relevant staff, and you will not be treated any differently than your colleagues, or bullied, just because you have handed your notice in.

TwinTantrums · 10/07/2025 19:49

Velmy · 10/07/2025 19:42

What are the business reasons? Unless they are denying all other relevant employees AL at that time for the same reasons, you're being treated differently and you don't have to put up with that.

Have you checked your contract? I've only ever heard of AL during a notice period being 'frowned upon', never seen a contractual ban on it. In fact the only time I can recall seeing it mentioned contractually is when the company makes you take any accrued AL instead of paying it out.

In terms of your legal position - technically they could sue you if you just walked out tomorrow and it caused a detriment to the company, however this is extremely unlikely. For example, if you were due to deliver a project and as a direct result of you not doing so, the company lost a client or suffered financial penalties. They would absolutely not take legal action against you for taking one day off.

They could put you through disciplinary/sack you if they deem it gross misconduct. Obviously you're under no obligation to engage with a disciplinary process, but it could be mentioned on your reference. Again though, it's very unlikely as it's a waste of time and effort on their part.

Do you even need a reference if your job is secure?

My recommendation (once you've checked your contract) would be to tell - not ask - them that you will be taking that day off. Tell them you're not aware of anything in your contract preventing you from taking AL during your notice. Tell them that any business need must be applied fairly and equally to all relevant staff, and you will not be treated any differently than your colleagues, or bullied, just because you have handed your notice in.

It’s not contractual it’s just what I’ve been told, that it’s unfair to other employees. I’m thoroughly fed up and not happy at all, which is also why I want to have a couple days off without affecting my lump sum at the end

OP posts:
Velmy · 10/07/2025 20:00

I suppose if, for example, you're directly responsible for people/processes which they have nobody else to cover, and are using your notice period to recruit your replacement, that might fall under a 'business need' specific to you. I could see them denying a request for two weeks off (or all your leave) in that scenario, but to deny a single day is ridiculous.

LlynTegid · 10/07/2025 20:19

An odd day seems more credible if it is midweek.

ParmaVioletTea · 10/07/2025 20:24

Of course it's unreasonable, even though your employer is also being unreasonable.

Nt23 · 10/07/2025 20:39

Who will do your work in your absence?

I think it's a really shitty thing to do if some other poor worker has to end up doing your job for you.

TwinTantrums · 10/07/2025 20:41

Nt23 · 10/07/2025 20:39

Who will do your work in your absence?

I think it's a really shitty thing to do if some other poor worker has to end up doing your job for you.

Nobody, I’ll pick it up the next day

OP posts:
TwinTantrums · 10/07/2025 20:41

ParmaVioletTea · 10/07/2025 20:24

Of course it's unreasonable, even though your employer is also being unreasonable.

Why is it?

OP posts:
TwinTantrums · 10/07/2025 20:42

Velmy · 10/07/2025 20:00

I suppose if, for example, you're directly responsible for people/processes which they have nobody else to cover, and are using your notice period to recruit your replacement, that might fall under a 'business need' specific to you. I could see them denying a request for two weeks off (or all your leave) in that scenario, but to deny a single day is ridiculous.

I honestly don’t understand it, they won’t budge at all

OP posts:
Nt23 · 10/07/2025 20:46

TwinTantrums · 10/07/2025 20:41

Nobody, I’ll pick it up the next day

Then surely you'd be shooting yourself in the foot?

TwinTantrums · 10/07/2025 21:00

Nt23 · 10/07/2025 20:46

Then surely you'd be shooting yourself in the foot?

Not particularly. I’ve handed over my case load and I’m doing absolute grunt work. I’m a former senior associate and I’m doing secretarial work. Photocopying and typing. I can cope with it

OP posts:
Swipe left for the next trending thread