To think some people become parents just to feel needed?

[ForSharpShaker]

Not out of love or purpose but to create a captive audience for their own emotional wounds. The child becomes a comfort object, not an individual. And that’s a recipe for generational mess.

You have literally just described someone I know. Has pulled all 4 of her (very shy but neurotypical) children out of school because she couldn’t bear to be apart from them, or having them being taught by others. Shes a twat, and is 100% ruining those poor kids’ lives

I know someone like this , she keeps her kids dependant so she won’t have to live alone . She’s always in to their business to the point they can’t think for themselves anymore so come to her for everything . She suffers with her mental health and it’s part of living in a very small closed world , exactly how she wants it . Her and her kids against the world. Talks in baby language despite them being adults . All very odd .

Yes I know a mother like that. Unable to nurture or guide her children wisely she’s just obsessed with controlling them.

My MIL is sort of like this - obsessed with babies and toddlers, and babies her adult sons.

She was babysitting once, and I came down during dinner. She'd taken away half the food I'd left in the bowl for her, and told me "he's not interested in this, he won't eat it". My son was 16m old and was baffled why nana was holding the bowl and trying to spoon it into his mouth.

Handed it over to him and he chomped away. MIL was baffled that he could do it himself, "hers were spoonfed til 2"... This is unsurprising having married her son...

I take the most joy from teaching my son how to do things, not taking care of him as a baby.