Context: I know they will start knocking on my door to play with my kids from morning till evening once holidays start. The kids are never supervised and I feel it’s left to me to keep an eye on everyone. They all play outside but I do get pushbacks from the older kids if they can come into my home. I let them in the garden but refuse to let a group of kids whose parents I hardly ever speak to in my home. I find it draining on the weekends when I’m around all these kids. I never get any space. There are 4 families altogether whose kids come over. One of the family have already broken up for summer and my ring doorbell keeps alerting me they are ringing the doorbell (I’m in work and my kids are in school). I keep telling them they in school but they still knock!
please give me some advice on how to set up a boundary and what to say in a nice way: so basically I want them to leave us alone during the day and only evening /late afternoons to come over. I feel really guilty doing this as most if them are so sweet and they’re face gets all upset when I say no and then I give in to the ordering by my children and I say they can play!