AIBU to still be upset that my birthday night out was a bit ruined?

[Lilcrazyop]

Hi all. My birthday was 2 weeks ago and I had a night out. For the most part it went well but my mood wasn’t there if that makes sense. I had a big knockback the week before and it really put me in a terrible mood that I couldn’t really shake. Something else happened with someone I really care about that left me reeling that night. In the moment I felt thrown away like trash and not good enough. AIBU to still feel sad that my birthday night felt ruined to me? I know I should have not got myself so worked up and should have tried harder to put that knock back to the back of my head. I look back at the photos and videos of that night especially as I film content and I can’t help thinking I was and looked happier last year. I can see the way I was in the videos that I wasn’t happy and I was trying to make myself happy. The past year or so I’ve had bad struggles and I really needed that night to go well. Please talk some sense into me. I know this is first world problems compared to what others are going through.

Get over it, it's just one evening

Making how you feel dependent on the approval/interest of someone else is always going to be a very dangerous game. Making how you feel dependent on the approval/interest of a single man when you’re married and have been crossing the line with the single man even more so. Add in obsessive behaviours, like watching a video that makes you sad and analysing it, and you’ve got a recipe for disaster. You need to go to therapy to address the reasons why you’re behaving this way.

You are definitely over analysing. Photos and videos should be snippets of the evening and not the whole thing anyway. You sound quite young and immature to be hung up in having a video perfect night out and I fear this comes from too much social media and reality TV.

As others have pointed out, if it was that your night was ruined because it was the night your 'guyfriend' kissed someone else you definitely have bigger problems.
You need to leave your husband and then are free to do what you want, but don't expect your 'guyfriend' to stick around. He is enjoying the chase and once he has you, you will be dropped. Marriage counselling might be the way forward.

Fucking hell. Strange approach to Christianity. 🫢

Are you a teenager? If not am making no allowances. Life is sometimes an 8 sometimes it’s a 1 sometimes it’s a 0 or it fluctuates.

So your night out was a bit underwhelming due to some rejection? I pity the poor people who had to endure being there as you took an inward tantrum. I just can’t take in that people or someone would find this a problem. Yeh be upset or have a cry whatever though I am bamboozled.

Wowsers!!!

I find it hard to be happy on my birthday. It's like an emotional new years where I look back and can't help but do an audit of my life to date. Lots of people are like this. My advice is not to plan much for a birthday as bringing it into too much focus, leads to bringing the past year into too much focus.

Just because it's a special occasion you can't automatically pretend to be happy when you're not.

When I was at a Christmas do shortly after my Dad died I put on a smiley face but had to keep disappearing to cry 😢

I decided then not to force myself into these situations when I know I will be sad.

Xxxxxccc