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AIBU to say that graduation ceremonies are not the place to make political statements?

443 replies

anythingbutlillies · 09/07/2025 20:53

Hard hat on.

DC's graduation today. Fabulous day, but it did not sit well with me that a few chose to unfurl a flag / raise a scarf while they were on the stage.
Just no! So very selfish.

Interested to hear if I am being precious?

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SamiSnail · 10/07/2025 08:15

CopperWhite · 10/07/2025 06:05

Palestinians are being killed, starved, held illegally and displaced in the name of Israel though, and let’s be honest, Israel started it.

That doesn't justify synagogues here being burnt, swastikas written on buildings here, and Jewish people here being attacked.

crankycurmudgeon · 10/07/2025 08:17

It seems to be very vogue at the moment to tack on "FREE PALESTINE" to the end of completely unrelated statements on social media.

SamiSnail · 10/07/2025 08:26

SnailPatronus · 10/07/2025 07:37

Of course not, because they’re committing genocide. But even if some people aren’t personally ok with it, isn’t that the whole point of political protest - to make people question how comfortable they are with something?

But Israel can argue that Palestine committed genocide on 7/10. And as Palestine started it, many would feel Israel would have every right to someone represent it and defend it by waving the Israeli flag. As Israel were the original victims.

SamiSnail · 10/07/2025 08:34

BeachPossum · 10/07/2025 07:41

Did she say every single student unfurled a Palestinian flag? Clearly her own daughter at least did not.

You're determined to write off the activism of these students as a trendy bandwagon, because it allows you to be condescending and dismissive without engaging with the cause in any meaningful way. That's fine - do what suits you. You aren't their target audience anyway, and they don't care what you think.

Several universities have already commenced divestment from Israel in response to pressure from staff and students, including political protest. In light of that, I promise these students aren't worried about what some small-minded Pearl clutcher on mumsnet thinks about their actions.

I get what noblegiraffe is saying. It seems people are obsessed with Palestine as it's the latest trendy thing. What about Ukraine? It doesn't get one 10th of the attention bloddy Palestine (which I am sick to death of hearing about) gets. What about the plight of women in Afghanistan? Well, it only affects women, so no one cares enough to wave an Afghanistan or feminist flag in solidarity. The world was always run by men. And further, no one even cares about climate change anymore. It's like..... nothing, nothing matters more than Palestine now. It's herd mentality. Just once I'd like a student to care about something, anything else other than Palestine. I know people are being turned off Palestine now and can't care less because we are saturated with the topic.

anythingbutlillies · 10/07/2025 08:35

BeachPossum · 10/07/2025 07:08

Where are you getting the idea that everyone did this?

This!

Nowhere have I said all the statements made were all about Palestine.
It just clearly suits the narrative for many on this thread.

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SamiSnail · 10/07/2025 08:36

Nn9011 · 10/07/2025 08:04

And where is that actually happening?

In the UK, in Australia, in America, for starters.

Ankleblisters · 10/07/2025 08:37

SamiSnail · 10/07/2025 08:26

But Israel can argue that Palestine committed genocide on 7/10. And as Palestine started it, many would feel Israel would have every right to someone represent it and defend it by waving the Israeli flag. As Israel were the original victims.

You have completely misunderstood. 'Palestine' didn't committed the terrorist atrocities on 7/10. Hamas did. Hamas are a terrorist organisation that took control of Gaza twenty years ago. They do not represent all or even a majority of Palestinians and every Palestinian I know was horrified by the attacks.
A terrorist attack should never justify the slaughter, maiming and starvation of tens of thousands of innocent civilians. It's a completely disproportionate response which is breaking international law.
Not even getting into the rights and wrongs of all the decades before that.

anythingbutlillies · 10/07/2025 08:37

noblegiraffe · 10/07/2025 07:39

Honestly it's FAR more upetting for anyone with a shred of decency that people like you are happy to watch the atocities Israel are committing and to think there is ANY moment that is inappropriate to speak out about it.

Love this. The suggestion that if you're pissed off about random virtue signalling on your child's special day that you are happy about what is happening in Gaza. Absolute smug self-righteousness of it all.

Perfectly put - thanks @noblegiraffe

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SamiSnail · 10/07/2025 08:38

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Yet to many, the waving of the Palestinian flag is the equivalent of waving a swastika. Both are anti-Jewish and represent violence and death against Jewish people.

Lins77 · 10/07/2025 08:42

anythingbutlillies · 10/07/2025 08:35

This!

Nowhere have I said all the statements made were all about Palestine.
It just clearly suits the narrative for many on this thread.

Just out of interest, what were the others?

weareallqueens · 10/07/2025 08:43

ExercicenformedeZ · 09/07/2025 23:58

YANBU. The usual omnicause performative bullshit. These people are unemployable numpties.

You think nobody that opposes the Palestinian genocide has a job? How closeted you must be.

Nn9011 · 10/07/2025 08:46

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Annoyedone · 10/07/2025 09:06

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Ah so only certain flags are ok in your book. And comparing the Israeli flag to the swastika. You’re letting your anti semitism show there sweetie. Tut tut.

MaturingCheeseball · 10/07/2025 09:15

This thread is being rather dominated by those committed to the cause - fair enough.

But I maintain that “protesting” at an academic occasion is performative.

I also maintain that if I were to ask most students exactly what they were protesting/supporting they’d have no clue. Exactly the same as all those chanting at Glastonbury: it’s all good fun and all about the moment.

Topseyt123 · 10/07/2025 09:18

MaturingCheeseball · 09/07/2025 22:39

At DD’s graduation students were warned that their degree would be revoked if there was any nonsense at the ceremony. What if everyone waved a flag of some sort?

I am glad to hear that. It sounds effective.

Some students pulled this stunt during my DD's graduation last year. It spoiled it for everyone else and their families and nobody cared about the points they were making. Twats! I wish her university (Cambridge) had taken such a stance.

DemBonesDemBones · 10/07/2025 09:20

When there is a genocide happening it’s always time for ‘political statements.’ I would have been very, very proud of my child if they’d done this.

TheGrimSmile · 10/07/2025 09:23

MaturingCheeseball · 10/07/2025 09:15

This thread is being rather dominated by those committed to the cause - fair enough.

But I maintain that “protesting” at an academic occasion is performative.

I also maintain that if I were to ask most students exactly what they were protesting/supporting they’d have no clue. Exactly the same as all those chanting at Glastonbury: it’s all good fun and all about the moment.

Well of course, all protesting is performative. It is a way to get a cause seen and talked about. I don't think it's fair to say that the person protesting doesn't care about Palestine. How can people not care? If students stop protesting about things then we are well and truly fucked as a society - and to be honest, we are heading that way. We need to be more like the French and less like Americans.

thepariscrimefiles · 10/07/2025 09:26

SamiSnail · 10/07/2025 04:04

Or maybe they might think what's happening there is none of our business, and we should stay out of the affairs of other countries and worry about our own country.

Well apart from selling arms to Israel, we are pretty much staying out of this. We certainly aren't doing anything to help the Palestinians. The BBC wouldn't even broadcast a documentary that they made. Channel 4 had to step up.

The UK isn't big enough or important enough to go down the isolationist route. Do you really think that what happens elsewhere in the world doesn't impact us?

anythingbutlillies · 10/07/2025 09:30

Lins77 · 10/07/2025 08:42

Just out of interest, what were the others?

It's irrelevant and not the point of the thread.

3 different virtue signalling statements

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anythingbutlillies · 10/07/2025 09:33

DemBonesDemBones · 10/07/2025 09:20

When there is a genocide happening it’s always time for ‘political statements.’ I would have been very, very proud of my child if they’d done this.

Good to hear.
Why don't you do something similar when you get to work each day?

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Topseyt123 · 10/07/2025 09:35

BusMumsHoliday · 09/07/2025 23:27

If this is in the UK, I'm quite surprised they can square this with the recent office for students guidance on free speech, which says that regulations restricting protest should be proportionate. I'm not sure revoking a degree is a proportion response here.

I think revoking the degree for twatty behaviour disrupting the ceremony and spoiling it for others and their families is entirely appropriate. The students would have fully deserved it and I wish more unis would take a similar stance, including my DD's last year.

BIossomtoes · 10/07/2025 09:37

Topseyt123 · 10/07/2025 09:35

I think revoking the degree for twatty behaviour disrupting the ceremony and spoiling it for others and their families is entirely appropriate. The students would have fully deserved it and I wish more unis would take a similar stance, including my DD's last year.

I don’t think that would be legal, particularly now students are customers. I imagine if it was attempted those customers would be demanding their money back.

DownsideUpside · 10/07/2025 09:42

Strawberrryfields · 10/07/2025 07:34

Revoked?! How ridiculous. ‘Let’s crush these inquiring minds we’ve just helped create?’ Graduates are the exact people who should be heading out to change the world. Student protest is nothing new and protest is not about making people feel comfortable.

This!
Young people should be educated and informed, and activism / protest is not unexpected of students.

Lins77 · 10/07/2025 09:44

anythingbutlillies · 10/07/2025 09:30

It's irrelevant and not the point of the thread.

3 different virtue signalling statements

OK. Your opening post just mentioned flags/scarves, not Palestine specifically, so I wondered what the others were - what are the other popular causes currently among students 🤷‍♀️

Lins77 · 10/07/2025 09:47

Anyway, I do wonder what the point of these "statements" is - how is it making a difference?

Campaign, fundraise, etc for your causes. Anyone can wave a flag, and I'm not convinced a graduation ceremony is the place for it.