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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Do you ever read a CF thread and end up more annoyed with the OP than the CF?

8 replies

ForZanyAquaViewer · 09/07/2025 16:19

Just that, really.

Someone will post: “My neighbour asked to borrow my car for a few days, and I said yes even though she doesn’t have a licence, and now she’s crashed it into a skip. AIBU to feel a bit miffed?”

And all I can think is: what in the name of spinelessness is going on here?

There’s always this breathless tone. “She moved into my spare room without asking, called my mum a cow and emptied my fridge. Should I maybe say something?”

No, Sharon. What you should do is grow a backbone, change the locks and possibly get your head examined.

It’s like they think martyrdom is a personality. As if being appallingly used but taking it with a trembly smile and a long Mumsnet post makes them holy.

I do get that people don’t like conflict. But at some point you have to wonder whether they’ve confused ‘being nice’ with ‘having no boundaries and the emotional fortitude of a damp cloth’.

Honestly, half the time the CF isn’t even the main character. The real drama is watching someone hand over their last Rolo, their house keys and their self-worth, and then go online to ask if it was a bit much.

Yes. Yes, it was. And so are you.

OP posts:
DragonTrainor · 09/07/2025 16:20

Are you okay OP?

I think there are some examples where people haven't helped themselves at all but others where I can see why it's a delicate situation and it's not always that easy to say no in real life especially for some people

cramptramp · 09/07/2025 16:23

I can’t think of any specific examples but I do feel exasperated with posters who are unhappy with something their partner or friends are doing but doesn’t say anything about it.

YesThatsATurdOnTheRug · 09/07/2025 16:27

I feel this sometimes, to the point where I wonder if it can be real
because surely no one would put up with that?!

Devilsmommy · 09/07/2025 16:30

Considering so many posters on here are too anxious to open the door or answer a phone it's not really surprising that they can't seem to say no to the cheekiest requests😂

Moanranger · 09/07/2025 16:37

Yes. The inability to deal with the most minor daily conflicts. I sometimes wonder how they get through life, it’s most perplexing!

SecretChipmunk · 09/07/2025 16:38

I’m beginning to wonder whether there are people at Mumsnet HQ making up ludicrous posts to drive activity tbh. Some of them seem so fake.

ForZanyAquaViewer · 09/07/2025 16:41

Moanranger · 09/07/2025 16:37

Yes. The inability to deal with the most minor daily conflicts. I sometimes wonder how they get through life, it’s most perplexing!

Literally the most basic conversations are beyond them. ‘Oh, I couldn’t have said no. I’m not good with confrontation’.

OP posts:
Floatlikeafeather2 · 09/07/2025 16:42

SecretChipmunk · 09/07/2025 16:38

I’m beginning to wonder whether there are people at Mumsnet HQ making up ludicrous posts to drive activity tbh. Some of them seem so fake.

I totally agree with you. Or if not Mumsnet HQ then various "newspapers" and magazines.

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