To think some people fabricate abuse for attention and leverage?

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It’s not popular to say but not every accusation is true. Some people cry “abuse” to control the narrative, gain sympathy or avoid accountability. That doesn’t mean we ignore real victims but we also need discernment.

Maybe but certainly not enough to get into a froth about. DA is under reported if anything. HTH.

Out of all of the problems with abuse a few people saying it for attention is the last thing to worry about.

I don’t think this is true the vast majority of the time, however, I saw a thread yesterday where someone was claiming that shouting at a child is abusive.

Obviously it can be abusive, but it isn’t automatically abusive. Sometimes it is warranted. So perhaps some people’s tale of woe should be taken with a pinch of salt.

I completely agree. I am seeing this more and more in the workplace. People are claiming they are being bullied when a manager is simply trying to hold them to account or just trying to get the job done. As a result, employers are letting staff get away with almost anything, and in turn, others start doing the same. Management cannot keep up, and we end up with high staff turnover.
A complete mess. For small business owners it’s a disaster.

There are a lot of people who want attention, negative or otherwise to garner sympathy or worse still money out of trusting peeps.
I do wonder about a lot of MN being in this vein, especially when there are drip feeds and things are moving too quickly for updates.
I sometimes think if you are in such a bad way how can you keep updating from a headache, then five minutes later, my leg just fell off, a space probe has just crashed through my roof but I'm going for a spa day.

Strange thing is the abuse survivors I personally know? Don't talk about it in public

And I'm not surprised that all these men are coming out saying they were abused I am surprised that the ones with many arrests and even convictions of domestic abuse from multiple partners...still get believed because everyone is out to get them right? Literally photos of your ex and kids with bruises but you are the victim

How do you know who the real Victims are when most abuse like verbal or coercive needs no marks?

Most women already are dismissed or not believed. Even when Rihanna is covered in bruises people say maybe she hit chris brown first or there are two sides to every story.

Most women who are abused have a long journey to realising what's happened was abuse. They initially blame themselves for not being enough, as the abuser has blamed them and controlled the narrative for so long .

I think you're dismissing it as it's talked about more openly now so people are more able to describe what has happened to them accurately. This feels unusual to you. You probably don't believe all the new neurodiversity diagnosis in women either.

Ps DARVO is a thing though, my ex told me his ex was emotionally abusive to him and he did a bit sob story about this. The stories he told about her changed over time. We had to leave a pub as he saw her family members and assumed she'd have 'told lies' about him.
A Clare's law check later told me he'd tried to
Strangle her and she'd called the police and I tried to reach out to her only and she was too scared to talk to me but told me to please call the police or women's aid if I felt unsafe.