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To think this was very decent behaviour

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Emelee · 08/07/2025 23:18

I (middle aged F) did a charity bike ride at the behest of a friend last weekend- 75k, only a little bit of training, didn't know the route. I was able to do it, but at times I struggled. I was also doing it by myself , some of the rest of them were in cycling clubs. It wasn't a race but obviously you want to finish. At one point I was struggling and had stopped; I asked a passing cyclist, a younger man who was doing the same event, if they knew the way. He stopped, was very kind, said he knew the route and would show me where to go, if I wanted. He was clearly pacing himself (I had gone off too quickly) and would in the normal course of things have passed me out and finished well before me. He stayed with me even though it meant falling well behind, told me in advance when hills were coming up, was really encouraging and introduced me to some of the group (he wasn't riding with them but knew them I think). No funny business at any point; I said arent I holding you back he said no, he wanted to help and only wanted to complete the ride not race for a certain time. I didn;t get to thank him but I was really very grateful. Did complete it but fairly slow

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samplesalequeen · 08/07/2025 23:22

there are a lot of good and decent men (and women) in the world.

the minority of bad eggs ruin it.

he sounds lovely and very genuine.

CopperWhite · 08/07/2025 23:23

How lovely to hear of a considerate cyclist.

Well done for completing.

pictoosh · 08/07/2025 23:31

Nice guy. Well done on your cycle. 75k is not to be sniffed at. x

steff13 · 08/07/2025 23:36

He sounds nice.

Emelee · 08/07/2025 23:41

I had just been watching a recent question time where they were discussing healthy masculinity; this sprung to mind although really I think we are actually talking about healthy human behaviour whatever category you are in

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Confabulations · 08/07/2025 23:42

Every organized ride has a not insignificant number of these types on it. Because contrary to popular opinion, most cyclists are decent and considerate people. Sometimes I have been helped round, sometimes I have been the helper. But always, I have managed to find a group to stick with and support each other. It's a community.

Well done on getting round.

TheyreLikeUsButRichAndThin · 08/07/2025 23:44

Lovely op! Most people are nice.

ShamrockShenanigans · 08/07/2025 23:47

Ahh he sounds lovely OP.

How come you didn't get to thank him?

That's such a shame.

lobeydosser · 09/07/2025 00:12

Very definitely a decent type! Good for him and good for you on doing 75km. Impressive all round🙂Wonder if it's worth an email to the organisers?

YourOnMute · 09/07/2025 00:18

That was very good of him.
There are good people around. I was driving about 90 mins away from home and a warning light came on in my car. I pulled into a small garage and the mechanic fixed up my car enough to stop the light and get it back to normal and wouldn't take a penny for it, saying "it could be my wife that might need a bit of help on the road some day". Very decent.

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