To say I couldn’t have been with someone whose salary didn’t allow me to take a year off?

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Whether it was for maternity leave, career transition, or just a break - financial breathing room has always been important to me in a partner. It’s not about laziness, it’s about life design.

AIBU to think compatibility includes financial vision, not just feelings?

Why can’t your salary and financial nous pay for you to have a year off? Leech.

Are you in a position to fund their year off then?

This seems rather grabby and entitled to me.
Earn enough of your own money to take time off.

How would you feel if it was reversed?

I earn my own money which allowed me to take a year off.
if men took the same view then you wouldn’t be very dateable

The writing style and user name look like ChatGPT. Does anyone know what the point of these threads are, where the first post is a provocative question and the OP never posts again?

This.

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Well you can choose what ever you want from a partner, however, personally I think thats not the best way to judge a new partner

Why not save your own money to fund your year off?

Are you also willing to extend this belief to accepting a new partner asking the same from you, so them asking you to fund their year off?

I mean, collectively earning enough for 2 adults to take a year off sounds amazing but , certainly in my circle, unrealistic so I wouldn't be basing my potential husband on their ability to fund this

I dont look at men or women like they are ATMs.
I would not want to be look at in the same way.
Its like using people.

Yet another ChatGPT post.

This exactly.🙄

You should have enough behind you if this is your choice - why should you expect someone to subsidise you?