Meet the Other Phone. Only the apps you allow.

Meet the Other Phone.
Only the apps you allow.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Advice please

2 replies

Strawber · 08/07/2025 10:09

Trying to keep it as short and factual as possible. I’ll not go into the dynamics of the relationship but you can probably guess what it’s like.

  1. DH of 17 years cheated on me when our youngest was 3 months old. I immediately ended the relationship.
  2. He reluctantly moved out but into a house share where he couldn’t take the kids overnight at all and came and went as he pleased. After 6 months this tenancy ended. He told me he was sleeping in his car and could he move back in for a week to get sorted.
  3. He moved back in August 2024 and is still bloody living with me.
  4. Hes used me to save for a home to buy, I got our current rental moved into my name only and applied for Universal Credit.
  5. Hes being fussy buying a house and he won’t fucking leave. He is emotionally abusive every day, if I ask him to hurry up and go he says well if you paid me the £6000 I owed him from being on Maternity and him helping me with my debts whilst married.
i don’t know what to do my mental health has hit an all time low. I need my space and peace.
OP posts:
MiloMinderbinder925 · 08/07/2025 10:14

File for divorce and tell him him to pack his stuff and leave. Call the police if he gets aggressive or won't leave the property. If you think his behaviour will escalate, get safety advice from a domestic abuse organisation.

Endofyear · 08/07/2025 11:59

If the tenancy is now in your name only, can you force him to leave? I think you need legal advice asap.

New posts on this thread. Refresh page