Past abuse from ex, could/should I report now?

[BarbaraVineFan]

I was in a very abusive relationship with my ex from 2005-2014. Emotional abuse, coercive control, gaslighting but also physical abuse on occasion. I was youngish at the time and my partner was a teacher, so I didn’t want to report because didn’t want her to lose her job (same sex relationship). I struggled for ages to leave but then did finally do so, cut contact and have built a good life for myself.

i am much older and maybe a bit wiser now, and just keep feeling very angry and upset for my younger self and that my ex got away with the abuse for years. It really blighted my life for a long time. I would like to report this to the police, but I don’t have evidence really so I’m guessing it’s pointless? Does anyone have any suggestions?

Just adding some examples of the abuse :

pushing/throwing me across the bedroom
so that I banged my face on the bedpost
holding my face pressed into a pillow while she punched the back of my head repeatedly
dragging me down the stairs by my hair
holding me up against the wall by my throat threatening to punch me in the face

I'm afraid I have no idea about the legal side of things, but you could call Women's Aid and ask them to advise you. It sounds like a very traumatic experience, I hope things have improved for you since.

I know that in my experience of reporting DA, the police wouldn’t do anything as there had to have been an incident within the last 6 months. So it’s unlikely I’m afraid.

That’s what I thought :( it just makes me angry when I think about it

You're unlikely to get any justice for yourself, but you will have a note on their record if anyone does a Clare's law request. Which could potentially save someone else in the future.

So if you do it, it's to help others but it won't help you much personally

This is horrifying.

I think that if she does it to someone else and they report it, and you've also reported it, it will help the next victim be believed. Also helpful for this to be on record to help protect any future children/

I agree that I wouldn’t want anyone else to go through it.

I have no idea where she lives now or even if she’s in the UK. How would I go about reporting it?