To say I don’t compare myself to other people and I don’t see the point in it?

[ThisWaryCrow]

I know comparison is human but honestly, it doesn’t help me. I’m happy for people doing well but I don’t measure myself against them… not their career, parenting, looks, holidays, none of it.

AIBU to think comparison mostly just makes people feel bad or competitive in a way that doesn’t serve them?

I feel the same tbh! It doesn't help but I also count myself lucky, and I think the people that do compare themselves often can't help it.

Really don't get people who get jealous. If you want something, go for it. Life is about choices. I have a sibling we're told not to tell about good things that have happened to us because she gets jealous. It's bizarre. She's not disadvantaged in any way.

I think comparison is quite a natural thing, but for me it tends to be comparing myself unfavourably to others in my head; it's like a stick I use to beat myself with.

I wish I could be so logical and do this. I spend most of my time feeling inadequate compared to most!

I don't know why you would compare yourelf to others either. We're all individuals. I don't see the point.

I have a sibling we're told not to tell about good things that have happened to us because she gets jealous
WTAF
Do your parents tell you this?
That's some headfuckery right there.

That’s lovely for you and I agree with you. But I think it’s nice to be mindful of the mental health privilege you have in being able to hold this position, and recognise that not everyone has that privilege. My privilege was hard-won in lots of therapy. Maybe you had a supportive family? Either way, nice to be mindful.

It's true I'm afraid. Other siblings warn us not to tell her and if it gets out that something good happened to us or the dc, dm will make up an imaginary achievement to praise dsis or her dc so she won't get upset.

Aren't you comparing the way you think to others with this thread, and implying your way is better whilst asking people to judge whether YABU or not?