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Debt collectors !

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Calmorchaos · 07/07/2025 17:49

I have a lot of debt. I would say maybe £15k all combined - credit cards , catalogues etc as well as arrears with utilities. I won’t bore with the details . 2 income household , rent, children. Had a bad time ( that was not our fault nor could it be predicted ) that massively affected us financially and led to us relying on credit .

Now, we’re getting back on our feet slowly. We are focusing on the utilities ( inc council tax ) and have payment plans set up. At present I can’t afford to pay the ones that are now with debt collection agencies . I am trying to set up small amounts but things like £5 per month and I’m in the process of getting support from step change.

Today I had a debt collector call. I was not in, I was at work, I have emailed this company as they have warned me they were sending someone but they do not respond , I work so haven’t been able to call and they will only allow me to set up a very unaffordable payment plan. This is what I’m feeling angry about :

The agent knocked my door , waited, then knocked my neighbours door and asked them about me - if I still live there , am I in. I am mortified . They had a lanyard and ID badge on so it’s clear where they are from so now my neighbour knows my business . I rent and , although unlikely , what if they mention this to my landlord ? They likely won’t , we get on well , but why would the agent do that? What right do they have to speak to my neighbours like that? The letter says if I don’t contact it will go further - attachment of earnings , ccj etc , so they could have just posted it and if they heard nothing they will go ahead . I can only think it’s a form of pressure - to embarrass me into paying? If I had the money I would pay but I don’t.

Im sure some will say that it’s my own fault but believe me this isn’t a situation I want to be in and I am trying .

OP posts:
MistressoftheDarkSide · 07/07/2025 17:55

I strongly advise you seek debt management help via CAB. There are quite a few options depending on your circumstances such as "breathing space" etc.

I've been through similar and the fear and embarrassment when things are getting out of control are awful x

I wish you well and I'm sorry you've had the experience described x take care x

tenot · 07/07/2025 18:23

I strongly support the suggestion of getting in touch with your local Citizen's Advice.

They are expert, helpful and free. Really there are lots of things you can do; the people at Citizen's Advice will help you choose - and do - what's best for you in your particular circumstances.

BunnyRuddington · 07/07/2025 20:18

Citizen’s Advice, Stepchange and Christians Against Poverty all give free debt advice. I would contact ine if them as soon as possible Flowers

Littlebelina · 07/07/2025 20:22

Was it resolvecall?

OlympicProcrastinator · 07/07/2025 20:31

Debt collectors are not allowed to contact your neighbours. This is against their code of conduct and you can report them to the Financial Conduct Authority for doing so. They must also leave your property (not bailiffs, but regulator debt collectors) if you ask them to. Additionally, they must not pressure you into making payments you cannot afford.

It sounds like they’ve broken all the rules and I’d be ensuring they got in serious trouble for pulling that shit.

chunkybear · 07/07/2025 20:49

Get help from the CAB to get your shit together - help will likely be a faster way and cheapest way to get the other side of this. Good luck

Mrsttcno1 · 07/07/2025 20:54

OlympicProcrastinator · 07/07/2025 20:31

Debt collectors are not allowed to contact your neighbours. This is against their code of conduct and you can report them to the Financial Conduct Authority for doing so. They must also leave your property (not bailiffs, but regulator debt collectors) if you ask them to. Additionally, they must not pressure you into making payments you cannot afford.

It sounds like they’ve broken all the rules and I’d be ensuring they got in serious trouble for pulling that shit.

This isn’t entirely true. Debt collectors can knock on your neighbours to ask if you still live at the property, they are absolutely allowed to do that. They can’t discuss your debt with a neighbour obviously but they are well within their rights to ask a neighbour if you live there.

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