So daughter is almost 23. She’s going into final year uni degree. She’s living at home. Pays nothing towards the house. She does her own washing and empties dishwasher if asked.
we helped her buy a car pay insurance etc and she comes and goes as she pleases. She has a
part time job so apart from paying her car repayments we don’t give her money. (She gets all food provided)
Recently she has started to take it all for granted. She makes no attempt to tidy or do any housework unless specifically asked. If I ask her to mind the dogs because she is in the house anyway (there’s not much minding other than to let them
out regularly) she will invent something she has to do which means I can’t rely on her.
she sits in her room all night and doesn’t even eat with us anymore.
I really don’t mind her living here it’s her home. But she isn’t contributing to the family.
I know if I talk to her she will say she does help. But it’s all on her terms, when suits her etc etc and often will be done with attitude. My husband works away during the week and when he’s home he does things like the bins garden etc. she seems to think because he doesn’t do anything in the house that she shouldn’t. Forgetting of course he pays for everything. Including her food board and car!
am I being unreasonable here? Should I not be expecting her to help?