Been with adult partner who's unwell many years, I work I support us both financially do the housework etc etc, he's very good with my adult children and ageing mother and I love him very much, just one issue, his daughter 25 own good job boyfriend house etc, in every way own life but she is extremely needy at times, we help her in whatever way we can and I have always said kids come first to a extent, I've tried everything with his daughter days out meals out visits kindness and whilst I absolutely get she needs one to one time with her dad, they go to days out and events together just next month they are staying overnight in a hotel and going to a pop concert fabulous don't mind one bit!, recently she snapped at me I told dad to have words as she is often rude doesn't speak to me, ignore me etc dad had words apparently I'm abit weird haven't done anything wrong as such but she told me she doesn't want to have contact with me or play happy families, I was extremely put out but respe9her wishes told her I would leave her alone,not contact her and dad would see her alone, ace fast forward few weeks now has decided she wants to go for lunch and chat after all the hurt and argument I have told partner no I've no wish too she doesn't want to know me and she upset me she cannot click her fingers I'm really trying to be the bigger person here but my mental health is a mess I have been under crisis teams along time and her reaction to me hurt me alot caused me alot if upset I just want to be left alone, surely she has to accept that saying those things to me was rude disrespectful hurtful and boomf click my fingers buy me lunch all is well agagin I cannot do it atm I just carnt