To find it unforgivable when

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People state that they don’t want their young person checked for neurodivergence as they don’t want them “labelled”

Engaging in a medical process that could lead to diagnosis of any type of neurodivergence isn’t a label, it’s a diagnosis. Young people who are neurodivergent and undiagnosed receive a lot more labels as a consequence of such ignorance.

And when “everyone is on the spectrum somewhere” is said?

We are 100% not all on the spectrum somewhere. That’s the equivalent of suggesting we should all be diagnosed with asthma because we all get out of breath sometimes.

In anticipation of the suggestion “everyone has neurodivergence these days” WHO and UNESCO place ADHD prevalence at around 5-7% of any population. In the UK less than 1% of the population have a diagnosis so it is absolutely not a label handed out to anyone and everyone.

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Two of my dc are diagnosed ND, one is thriving, the other not so much due to some medical issues.

Another of my dc is ND, but undiagnosed, there are various reasons for this, and it was discussed at length with my dc.

It's very personal and unique to each individual, but there are times a diagnosis isn't helpful.

A nurmative curve means that lots of people fall outside the mean.
We are over diagnsoeding loys of pwople

I don't know.
I'm an adult and pretty sure I'm ND. I've made it through life just fine and don't think a diagnosis would have benefited me. Sure, in lots of cases diagnosis is a good thing to help children access support, but I'm not convinced it's necessary in all cases.

What about when the person themselves doesn’t want to be labelled?

Assuming you have had your own children diagnosed (if necessary) as you are clearly passionate, who are all these people you don't forgive?

Your own parents? Are you a teacher?

I’m almost certain that if I underwent whatever test or assessment there is, I’d be neurodiverse.

I haven’t done it because I don’t see any benefit to doing so. I’ve got to my late 40s, I’m doing OK (I might even go as far as to say doing well), and this is me.

That doesn’t mean others won’t find some value in a diagnosis, and good for them if they want to do that.

This seems to be a response to another thread about a 4 year old who won't sleep, where the OP says she doesn't want her child to be assessed.

Oooohhhhhh is this a TAAT?

The last line in the OP of the mum with the kid that won't sleep.

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This is also me.

Im not in any way say a diagnosis is better my point is that making a decision not to investigate a potential diagnosis for a young person (not adult) on the basis of wanting to avoid labels is naive.

personal choice surely?
it is a big deal to speak to your dc about perhaps

we need more neuroaffirmative language

I think it depends on the condition and the situation, surely? I was talking to a pretty pissed off mum in the playground a couple of weeks ago, her child apparently is perfectly well behaved, but at only 7 is really struggling with numbers, doesnt struggle with anything else, the mum was quite surprised really. His teacher has decided he might have some condition and has suggested he might have ‘x’ diagnosis, don’t ask me what it was because I cant remember. It’s made him feel like he has a disability (not saying that there’s anything wrong with that), but the only symptom was struggling with maths. And that was the mums point really, why does he have to have a diagnosis, why can’t he just be bad at maths??

I don't know. I have 3 children and my oldest son is 13 and have never had him diagnosed even though I think he could be on the spectrum. It doesn't seem to cause him any problems, he does well in school and had good friends. He doesn't need any extra adjustments and would likely not receive any additional support in this country anyway.

I have recently gone through the diagnosis process with my 8 year old daughter who has autism. We thought long and hard over it and it's a very hard decision to make for someone else, who may or may not thank you for it later in life. She doesn't cope as well and thought she would find adjustments at school useful.

My point is, I don't think it's as black and white as you are making out.