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When will this torturous hormonal rollercoaster end?

19 replies

Glittercloud17 · 06/07/2025 22:28

Shining Stephen King GIF

What the hell is going on? This has been getting worse for years: Once a month I get so incredibly anxious (something I have never felt before turning 40), depressed and so down to the point I fantasies about just ending it all (I wouldn’t. Just think it sometimes when I’m pre-period).

I always forget that it’s my period so I have to track it really intensely to remind myself.

I was never ever ever like this in my teens/20s/30s. Is this normal? Why is PMT and depression worse now than ever before? When will this godforsaken torturous hormonal rollercoaster hell end?

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clickyteeclick · 06/07/2025 22:59

When you start HRT… that’s when 🙌🏼

MooseBeTimeForSnow · 06/07/2025 23:01

PMDD?

Glittercloud17 · 07/07/2025 07:11

I am on HRT! The symptoms of depression, doom and gloom continue to rage even while taking this. I’m on oestrogen and progesterone. Have been offered a testosterone spray which I’m yet to sample.

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Glittercloud17 · 07/07/2025 07:15

MooseBeTimeForSnow · 06/07/2025 23:01

PMDD?

Do you think it’s possible to develop PMDD in your 40s? I never had this issue before

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FusionChefGeoff · 07/07/2025 07:21

What dose HRT?

Gettingbysomehow · 07/07/2025 07:23

Glittercloud17 · 07/07/2025 07:11

I am on HRT! The symptoms of depression, doom and gloom continue to rage even while taking this. I’m on oestrogen and progesterone. Have been offered a testosterone spray which I’m yet to sample.

I didn't know you could get testosterone spray? Did you get it from your GP?

clickyteeclick · 07/07/2025 07:31

What dosage are you on? I’m in 125mg and still get the PMT!

Pelvicpaininthebum · 07/07/2025 07:32

How old are you?

I'm 40 and definitely feel PMT is getting worse, but the worst is only 1/2 days. How long do you experience these feelings for?

Maybe you need to tweak the HRT?

WhySoManySocks · 07/07/2025 07:46

I’m the same. Here hoping for advice.

Those of you who are taking HRT, did you just rock up to your GP and ask what they recommend, or did you read up about it and go knowing what to ask for, or did you go private?

I’m honestly insane for one week out of each four and I hate it. The different spin I put on the same things depending on where in the month I am is disturbing.

FreddysFingers · 07/07/2025 08:09

I am the same post 40, the last period was horrendous, I felt so so low 🙁

Peanutbutterflies · 07/07/2025 08:14

I was speaking to me sil yesterday and said exactly the same. It's maybe one or two days but I feel so so low just cannot escape the feelings of completely and utter doom. The next day period! I really hope it doesn't get worse!

Glittercloud17 · 07/07/2025 08:48

Gettingbysomehow · 07/07/2025 07:23

I didn't know you could get testosterone spray? Did you get it from your GP?

Not quite. From the Hospital - which links the prescription with my gp

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Glittercloud17 · 07/07/2025 08:49

Peanutbutterflies · 07/07/2025 08:14

I was speaking to me sil yesterday and said exactly the same. It's maybe one or two days but I feel so so low just cannot escape the feelings of completely and utter doom. The next day period! I really hope it doesn't get worse!

How old are you? For me, it’s gradually been getting worse since I was 40 (I’m 47 now). I am fit and healthy, but there are a few days of the month I think the world is a terrible terrible place and I have this ritual of trying to convince myself that everything is ok

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Peanutbutterflies · 07/07/2025 09:55

@Glittercloud17 45 and it's definitely got worse over the last year

RaspberryCombat · 07/07/2025 10:01

Thank you for posting this. I’m the same and I’m only 38. I’ve thought about going to the GP and asking for Sertraline or something, but I don’t want to put on weight as that will make everything worse.

Glittercloud17 · 07/07/2025 12:47

RaspberryCombat · 07/07/2025 10:01

Thank you for posting this. I’m the same and I’m only 38. I’ve thought about going to the GP and asking for Sertraline or something, but I don’t want to put on weight as that will make everything worse.

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My peri menopause symptoms started at 38. I knew it wasn’t depression. The symptoms have made me worried I might even be bi-polar. It’s definitely not right. I am on HRT. Hardly helps it seems

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ohyesohyesoh · 07/07/2025 12:50

I’m in HRT and the mood swings are still shite

Shelly1973ish · 07/07/2025 12:53

Are you possibly progesterone intolerant?

What HRT regime are you on?

Personally HRT has changed my mood but they are still an issue.

Hecatoncheires · 07/07/2025 12:58

I experienced the same thing, after having my DD age 39. Really overwhelming sense of despair and what's-the-point - I'd sit on the loo and feel unwilling to move. And I'm generally an upbeat and positive person! Then a day or so when my period came I'd feel back to normal. I didn't take any HRT but friends of mine swear by it. One of them had been on anti-depressants and said that the HRT took away the need for them. I'm mid-50s and properly menopausal now, having not had a period or about 8 months, but I can still get the sudden low mood. I hope you can find a solution, wishing you all the best.

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