at the end of January i 34F decided to split from my ex 33M of 11 years due to him potentially being unfaithful with prostitutes (he says he didn’t attend the appointments he booked but how would i ever know) he was also messaging his colleagues telling them they looked great etc etc this all started whilst i was 3 months post partum with our daughter. he also started drinking every single night and would hide it and lie about it constantly
10 days after we split he was on dating sites, then i found he’d started messaging someone new and i also noticed condoms in his wallet (i was looking for some change for an ice cream for our son) i just feel hurt, like i know he’s single but it just seems so soon. i feel like im in a much worse place than him. he sees our children once a week and just seems to be living his life whilst im home being mummy. i adore our kids but how does he get to hurt me like he did and just carry on like normal? how is that fair?!
i recently told him for now that i dont want to speak with him outside of conversations regarding the children. he doesn’t understand why, and has asked we carry on like normal (which involves speaking everyday) i said no and that we cant act like friends because right now we’re not. we need to start living our seperate lives, like he quite obviously is doing
am i an asshole for saying that? or is he trying to have his cake and eat it?
he told me he still cares and politely told him he doesn’t need to. i have good friends and family around me so he needs to leave me alone for a bit. it’s not to say we won’t be ‘friends’ in the future but for now it’s too much