To leave my tiny house in a perfect town for a bigger house in an area I’m not sure about.

[Beachymamma]

Early 40s, two little ones (2 and 4 years old).
Over the past 22 years, I’ve lived in about 17 different houses, moving around the UK and Europe. But now, I’ve finally found somewhere that feels like home.

We live in a small, charming town that I absolutely love — canal walks, the beach, parks, and great schools all on our doorstep. It’s a quaint place with lovely neighbours. After three years here, I’ve started to get to know people, and I just adore living here.

But… there’s a dilemma.

The town is incredibly expensive. We own a small two-bed terrace, and we simply can’t afford to buy a three-bed here. We’ve looked into extending, and it might be possible to add a small two-storey extension for around £85k — giving us a third bedroom and a slightly bigger kitchen. But even with that, the house and garden would still be pretty small.

Option 2:
We could move just five miles down the road, where house prices are much more affordable. For the price, we could buy a beautiful Victorian semi over three floors — the kind of home I’ve always dreamed of. Big kitchen, lounge, dining room — proper space to have friends and family over, to host Christmas… the whole lot. That house is completely out of reach where we live now.

But here’s the thing: the neighbouring town, while not terrible, feels a bit soulless to me. It’s rougher, the schools aren’t as good (though not awful), and honestly, the thought of living there makes me nervous. I’m scared I’ll feel lonely there. I’m very introverted, and while I’m happy in my own company, I take such comfort from the vibe of where we live now. I never feel isolated here.

So I’m torn.

Do we stay put, squeeze ourselves into our tiny house, maybe extend and make the best of it?
Or do we bite the bullet, move to the next town, get the space we need and the dream house — but risk losing the sense of belonging I finally feel?

Have any of you made the move from your dream location to get the bigger house? And if so… was it worth it?

I honestly don’t know what to do. The kids will need more space as they grow, but I’m scared I’ll regret leaving a place that finally feels like home.
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Schools would tip it for me. I’d extend.

Stay where you are. There's a reason why estate agents say Location Location Location.

Things will change - it might be in 5 years you can afford a bigger house in the area, it might be that you decide to move in 5 years but for the moment, you don't have to make a major life changing decision. There is not a kitchen big enough for me that would persuade me to take a risk in a place I'm not keen on - especially given the schools.

Don’t buy a house based upon guests staying.
If you love where you live, make your home the best it can be for you. Moving is horribly expensive. Use that wasted money to make your current home amazing.

Extend and stay put. A sense of belonging is such a gift.

We moved from a 3 bed with 3 loos to a 2 bed with one loo.. all for location
Feels like home and we’ve just had to be clever with storage/space, but don’t regret it at all

Stay where you are. There’s a very good reason for the vast difference in house prices.

We have the same dilemma and location wins. I have great neighbours and that is worth more than a bigger house.

You could wait for something to come along you can afford and in the meantime elevate within a room, an upper space for a bed or chill spot.

It doesn't sound like you want to live there. Go with your gut. I'm in the same boat and we will probably stay and go into the attic.

Stay where you are. Can’t put a price in great community, really good schools and a sense of belonging. I’d extend your current house and tell yourself you have everything for a great life right where you are.
we’ve made the same decision and are happy. Occasionally I think about a bigger house but then remind myself location is everything

Stay where you are.
Loving your location is priceless.

Are your children the same sex? Or do you have a boy and a girl? If it's the latter, I'd be more inclined to move as they'll need a bedroom each at some point

Definitely stay for now. Are DC the same sex?

I was told years ago by a good estate agent friend that if you are moving long-term, and can't afford the area you really want, buy as close in distance to it as you can, as other people will do the same, and the "gentrification" effect spreads.

You are being unreasonable for using chat gpt to post questions 😆so grating to read!

I agree with all the pp who said it's all about location. 100% it is better to live in a smaller house in a lovely location, than a bigger house in a less-desirable location! We are in the same boat and have decided to stay put. We love it here and you can't put a price on the perks of where we live.

Exactly my comment. I mean at least delete the last sentence, and the long dashes.

Presumably there was a reason you chose the town you're in now and not the one 5 miles away when you first moved there?

I'd stay put and extend.

We have a girl and a boy so if we can’t extend then I think we would have to move. Unfortunately, we can’t do a loft extension. So we have to hope we could do a double extension adding a small second bedroom and extending the kitchen.

The house is a 2 up, 2 down but fab location and I just love the town. I suppose I always thought I would go on to ‘the next house’ but if we can extended it and then give the bathroom a revamp it could be small but lovely !

Deep down I feel like I’ve sold the chicken short. We are often invited to play at open planned homes and the kids play while adults sit in kitchens. It’s not possible at ours and I feel embarrassed. I feel like the chicken deserve more space !!!

I am sorry. I have really bad dyslexia and struggle to structure things well. Xx

I wouldn't move anywhere with worse schools.

Well if the DC are 2 and 4 now you’ve got quite a long time before they absolutely need their own rooms; This also means that a lot could change with the schools in both areas before they get too far into education so why not leave it a little longer to make the decision?
On the other hand, an extension to your present home will add value so it may make it easier to trade up where you are.

I have a Victorian house. I have just spent £1100 on various plumbing issues. Maintaining it is so much more expensive than newer houses. Take that into account.

I would rather be cramped near better schools than somewhere spacious with less good schools. It’s personal preference of course but I would stay where you are.

Stay where you are, declutter and extend. Do the extension and maybe even a garden office. Use every inch of space. You might then find that in a couple of years you can afford a bigger house where you are.

Honestly if you love the area you’d be mad to give it up- my kids spent barely any time in their rooms at that age. Furnish one of the kids’ rooms as a nice double, fit bunks into the other room and move the kids in together when you have a guest. Look at the downstairs rooms and make a big kitchen diner in one (then a small snug) if you can. Reassess in a couple of years.

I bet you could get a decent open plan room in downstairs- if you post a floor plan I’m sure people could give some ideas!