Aggressive neighbour

[AloneMarried]

I have really aggressive and unpleasant nearly neighbours. Always loud music, think they own the street.

I live alone and they must know this. I’ve tried being nice and smiling but they have never returned a smile.

I was showering earlier and heard banging on the door, three times, really loud banging. I wasn’t prepared to answer the door in a towel so let them bang. Checking my doorbell it was the horrible neighbour.

he is so aggressive and I don’t know what he wanted. WWYD? Should I answer if they come back later?

How is he aggressive?

He’s always shouting at his kids in the street. They both are. Really loud music with windows open all year round. Banging my door like there was a fire.

I mean I would probably answer the door yes.
Nothing you've said would mean I wouldn't answer the door.

But it's your house so it's up to you

He clearly has an issue he wants to shout at me.i don’t know what it is.

Has he shouted at you before then

No - but he shouts at everyone

Ok well it's up to you if you want to answer the door or not

When he knocks can you open the bedroom window and ask him what he wants? Also record it discreetly on your mobile.

Good idea to ask out of the window and to record it. May be nothing

This is totally bizarre. I have so many questions and no idea what you want us to say.

Why do you think he wants to shout at you?
If you have always been nice, what could you have done to warrant him shouting at you?
Do you think he is dangerous?
What sort of things does he shout at “everyone” for?
Could he have knocked knowing you were home, then banged again louder (thinking you couldn’t hear).

I don’t think it’s bizarre.
He’s known to be really unpleasant. I don’t know what he thinks so can’t answer that.
Yes, I think he has possibility of being dangerous.

Your OP sounds like you have a Ring-type doorbell? Talk to him through it if he comes back and then 1) it's recorded and 2) the most he's gonna do is yell and 3) you can tell him to leave and hang up any time.

I'd maybe answer the door but have my phone recording to get any evidence if he's horrible to you

Previous posters would have got out of the shower and answered the door in a towel, honestly?

I think previous posters who are saying they would answer the door are answering OP when she says 'should I answer the door later?'

Or about if they would answer the door in general.

I doubt anyone is saying they'd answer the door if they were the shower at the time!

I think you are going to worry yourself into a state about this when it’s almost certainly nothing. I’d go round to his house, knock, and say “sorry, I was in the shower when you knocked earlier but saw it was you from the doorbell camera”. But if you are worried, can you arrange for a friendly neighbour to be outside nearby, watering plants or cleaning their car windscreen or something?

If you do answer the door to him suggest the he use the doorbell rather than loudly banging on the door as if the house is on fire, which is alarming to say the least.

If he is rude or aggressive, be firm, say you don't like how he's speaking to you, and tell him to leave and not to come onto your property again.

Thanks for the response.
Going to his house is the very last thing I would ever do though. Like entering the lions den. He hasn’t called back and hope he won’t.
It’s easy to say I’m worrying myself into a state over nothing but perhaps you don’t live in an area like mine!

Ignore him, if he knocks back either open the window to respond or use the door bell.
I hope you're okay.
What a prick, hopefully he'll probably forget what he wanted by tomorrow.
I know it is really hard, but try to act tougher with him, big bully.