Neighbour just ignores me?

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I live in a newbuild estate and my house is in a cul de sac where there are 9 other houses.

Me and my neighbour on the left are very friendly and always offer each other advice, do each others bins etc.

My neighbour on the right is lovely but abit more reserved but I take her parcels when needed.

My neighbour who lives next to door to my left sided neighbour has just began ignoring me and DH.

Prior to this she would always say hello etc.

Now she see’s us and just ignores us.
She is very friendly with all the neighbours on our side (5 houses).

The only thing I can think of was that she overheard me telling DH about kids playing on our front garden and she assumed that we was talking about her kids (we weren’t) as that is when she started ignoring us.

My neighbour on the left also mentioned that the said neighbour feels offended that I never get her bin.

I am a SAHM so maybe that’s why I am over thinking it, but I don’t want an atmosphere and want to be friendly with everyone.

Shall we just carry on ignoring her too or ask her if she has an issue with something that she overheard?

You're overthinking it. She's two doors down. It doesnt really matter if she ignores you or not.

When I lived in a housing estate I wouldn't have even noticed if a neighbour ignored me never mind one two doors down. Forget about it, its not important.

Offended you never get her bin? What? I put my own bins out and collect them. Last week someone else returned them to my front garden - I assume my next door neighbours but they’ve never done it before, and why would they? I mean it’s not hard and made me wonder if they were blocking the pavement or something .
Just let it go. You have no idea what’s going on on her head, but people and bind - really just take care of your own!

Two doors down? Fuck ‘em. Just because you all live in the same street, all moving in at the same time does not mean you’ll all get along.

Don’t talk about other neighbours to neighbours. Smile and wave.

This, I don’t even know who lives 2 doors down either side of me.

Offended you never get her bin, why would you do that?

She’s two doors down, who cares. I’ve no idea who lives two doors down, wouldn’t know them if I walked past them in the street.

She can obviously take her bin out, so she sure as hell take it in as well.

Oh god no, very don’t engage in conversations about what they may or may not have overheard. You don’t have to ignore them in a tit for tat style, but they happen to be people who live near you, that are not your friends or family. One day you may get to know each other better and become friends, but also it may never happen, which is fine too.

Does she get your bin op? If she gets your bin, and you don’t get hers, you can see why she is a bit upset. I wouldn’t confront her because she is 2 doors down, (like others have said) but I’d maybe make an extra effort to get her bin next bin day. Should be reasonable if your a sahm, as won’t be at work and miss it. When you return it, you could CONSIDER a small peace offering on the top like a basket of fruit. If that feels too much, consider just one but make it an ‘unusual’ one like a pineapple or a nectarine

@Subbyhubby assuming you are joking. If not, that’s bonkers.

They're not even your neighbour I wouldn't even give this a second thought

As I get my neighbours bin she apparently thinks I’m being rude by not getting her bin (she has never got my bin).

Yes I will just ignore it and get on with it, we aren’t anticipating in staying here long anyway.

But you’re listening to rumours. You have no idea if this is true. I suspect you’re overthinking as you’re a SAHP.

Neighbour relationships nowadays are nothing like 20, 30 50 years ago. We used to call all my parents neighbours Aunty/Uncle when we were young; the late teens would watch the younger kids out playing while tinkering on cars and would run to the shops for the poorly neighbour or the one with a new baby; kids would all walk home from school together. Someone would make sure you had milk & bread when you got home from holiday and had put the bins out.

Nowadays, you’re lucky if you even know the names of those neighbours next door but one let alone do anything for them!! We’re lucky the people either side of us are lovely and stop for a chat but that’s probably all and we don’t even know the names of the new people 2 doors up - they’ve been there a year!!

To be honest I have always kept myself to myself but one of my neighbours is very chatty and friendly which is nice but can be abit too much sometimes as she is very observant and asks a lot of questions.

I was happy just keeping myself to myself but just found it strange how all of a sudden the neighbour in question just stopped saying hello.

The houses are very close and literally only a couple of metres away.

But yeah I will just carry on as normal and ignore the gossip surrounding the bins etc.

She is doing you a massive favour by ignoring you. If she thinks your being rude for not taking her bin you have dodged a bullet. She sounds very entitled and spoilt. Having the bad luck of living close to one of these types I can guarantee they are best avoided.

@Fundays12
Yes it’s abit strange to think that she expects me to take her bin every week we have only ever had one convo (when we had a power cut) and only ever said hello to each other.

If my other neighbour mentions her again I will just say I don’t want to talk about the neighbours .

The suggestion to put a pineapple on top of the offending bin to say sorry is hilarious. I have a neighbour who ignores me, I used to say hi and smile then realised she was finding it extremely hard to reciprocate, so I stopped. Now we ignore one another. Meh.

If its true she is very entitled and a bit of a drama queen. Why on earth would you take in her bin.

That's probably a good idea to say that or just make it clear you don't know her.