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AIBU to expect the police not to lock me up because I have severe claustrophobia.

155 replies

jojojoeyjojo · 05/07/2025 22:17

I haven’t actually committed any crimes ..but just watching one of my favourite TV shows …’24 hours in Police Custody’ and idly musing about what would happen if I ever did get arrested. I am severely claustrophobic and if I was locked in a police cell…or ..shudder…the back of a police van I would be a hyperventilating, hysterical wreck. I am normally very calm in a crisis but my irrational phobia of enclosed spaces or being locked in would be my undoing. What would the police do
in this situation. I guess they would still have to lock you up? Or would they be able to make reasonable adjustments..I’m genuinely curious..

OP posts:
bestcatlife · 06/07/2025 10:40

You're not the only one with this fear. I'm hugely claustrophobic, I often scare myself thinking about being wrongly convicted of a crime. I once told my colleague about it and she shares the same fear!

DurinsBane · 06/07/2025 10:42

healthybychristmas · 06/07/2025 07:07

@ThePieceHallI would really struggle to have a relationship with my daughter after that.

I assume that is why she is calling her ‘adopted daughter’ rather than ‘daughter’. I guess the 8 year old has done something as well as she was also referred to as adopted

ThePieceHall · 06/07/2025 12:33

sashh · 06/07/2025 10:08

I was arrested.

Someone called the police and made a very specific allegation that I had sent two emails using her account on a particular lap top.

At the time the email was sent the lap top was in Australia, I was in South America.

They were not the brightest, they confiscated my PC, which I understand, but they took the monitor, keyboard, mouse and printer. I asked them about the printer and I was told, "My mate says there is a memory in it".

As for adjustments, it fucking hurts when you have arthritis in your fingers and they are trying to bend them the wrong way to get prints.

It’s weird how the majority of people on here are of the no smoke without fire mindset. I’m glad that you have also illustrated just how easy it can be for someone to detonate a hand grenade into your life. Can I ask, how did your situation end?

JustMeHello · 06/07/2025 12:53

You see this kind of thing on Interceptor type programmes all the time, where someone screams and cries and writhes around in agony when they're being arrested, or claims to be panicking and hypterventilating. They don't do anything differently, other than perhaps getting them checked medically.

BernardButlersBra · 06/07/2025 14:00

MoominUnderWater · 06/07/2025 07:09

I worry about something related….i have a frozen shoulder so couldn’t manage handcuffs behind my back. I can’t physically move my arm there, I assume if a police officer moved my arm they could force it into place but I’d be in agony. I can’t wipe my arse with that hand it’s so bad and I’m nearly in tears getting undressed.

Would they agree to handcuff me with my arms at the front? 😁

Different forces have different protocols. Force near me will only cuff to the front

BernardButlersBra · 06/07/2025 14:13

NuffSaidSam · 06/07/2025 00:20

Would it not depend on her reaction? If she's so claustrophobic that she was self harming for example? Or struggling to breathe?

No. Self harm and panic attacks are frequent occurrences and not definitely sectionable for. As @TheCurious0range said then all defendants have things they can have self harm with removed as standard. They are in the care of the police and they have a duty of care to all.

Additional observations may be used and some more modern police stations have lots of CCTV. Some stations also have clear doors

When people mention “calling a doctor”, what for. Doctors aren’t based in police stations. There are nurses but there might be 1 shared across a wide geographical area and number of stations. Nurses can prescribe something but this may in turn make the person not fit for interview. If a Mental Health Act or section 136 is required then a referral would need to be completed and may well be declined. Even if accepted there will be a wait for the sectioning team and a space in a 136 space or bed. Can easily go on for a few days.

BernardButlersBra · 06/07/2025 14:16

PS even if the Mental Health Act assessment goes ahead then the person still may not be sectioned if both the doctors don’t agree and may just continue to follow the police processes I.e. interview, charge or not charge, remand or bail etc. There are no quick fixes or “get rid it of jail free” if you like

sashh · 07/07/2025 08:33

Before they even interviewed me they said if I admitted it I could 'get away' with a caution.

Then they threatened to confiscate all my employers' computers (it was a college).

After 2 weeks they 'released' me from bail.

A complaint was investigated by an inspector and the arresting officer had some form of official telling off.

I drank enough to damage my liver and had a couple of panic attacks when I encounter police officers.

sashh · 07/07/2025 08:35

PP was an answer to @ThePieceHall.

FairKoala · 07/07/2025 08:43

EmeraldShamrock000 · 06/07/2025 10:24

I doubt it, they probably provide a responsible adult.
Many people use emotional support animals that cannot be in certain areas.
I doubt the dog could stay in a hospital ward or aeroplane for your needs.

Definitely dog would stay with you on a flight

FairKoala · 07/07/2025 08:46

How does that work if you are banging your head against the wall.

Can’t exactly have your head removed

Profpudding · 07/07/2025 08:46

if anything they are extra cunty, I know of somebody who was in a cell and the officer went in put his arms around her gave her a hug and his hand on her leg. This was a young woman
She asked him to remove his hand from her leg and it really went very downhill from there

ThePieceHall · 07/07/2025 08:56

sashh · 07/07/2025 08:33

Before they even interviewed me they said if I admitted it I could 'get away' with a caution.

Then they threatened to confiscate all my employers' computers (it was a college).

After 2 weeks they 'released' me from bail.

A complaint was investigated by an inspector and the arresting officer had some form of official telling off.

I drank enough to damage my liver and had a couple of panic attacks when I encounter police officers.

Was this anything to do with gender wars, by any chance? When I was being released, the custody sergeant ‘made a mistake’ and told me I was being cautioned. I said I would not accept a caution and they were welcome to rearrest me. I had done nothing wrong but I was also aware that police cautions will show up on DBS checks and prevent travel to certain countries. The custody sergeant then corrected his ‘mistake’ and told me I was being released on short bail pending further inquiries.

Interestingly, I had a visit yesterday from two fellow adopter parents, one of whom was recently arrested on a false allegation of intent to kill one of their very troubled and wayward teens.

FairKoala · 07/07/2025 09:02

HarkerandBarker · 06/07/2025 03:25

Is it on your GP files that you suffer with claustrophobia?

😂😂😂

Judging by what little is on these records, it wouldn’t matter if you did actually have a diagnosis, it would be hit and miss if it was on there

FairKoala · 07/07/2025 09:05

TheCurious0range · 06/07/2025 00:38

Do you know how many times a day a custody sergeant hears that?
If you were deemed to be a risk to yourself you'd be out on close obs, the nurse would come and visit and if you were on verified prescription meds you'd get them if you were in for 6 hours.
Most people don't commit crime because they can't stand the thought of the consequences to others and themselves.... Incarceration included

What about those that don’t commit crimes but are arrested

TheCurious0range · 07/07/2025 09:14

FairKoala · 07/07/2025 09:05

What about those that don’t commit crimes but are arrested

You mean like 70% of the prison population?

jojojoeyjojo · 07/07/2025 09:31

I am very sorry to hear of the horrible experiences of those who have been wrongfully accused of a crime and arrested. That must compound the fear and anxiety hundred-fold and I can imagine take a long time to get over.

OP posts:
rainbowunicorn22 · 07/07/2025 18:24

i know from when someone was locked up with claustrophobia its not a get out clause. at most they may take you to hospital to be checked but in this case the person had a Dr arrive who gave them a sedative injection so they could sleep until released with a caution in the morning

Outsideswimbabe · 07/07/2025 19:01

HauntedBungalow · 05/07/2025 22:25

No yanbu.

If you were arrested they would have to make reasonable adjustments including but not limited to:

  • transporting you in an open top van
  • leaving your cell door open save for when you require privacy
  • noise cancelling headphones to relieve anxiety
  • a safe space with neutral decor and calm, ambient lighting
  • a friendship bench
  • sticker chart for good behaviour
  • an officer designated "mother" you can chat about your feelings with

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

Tryonemoretime · 07/07/2025 19:16

ThePieceHall · 06/07/2025 06:08

I know this is a fairly lighthearted thread but please may I point out that you don’t actually have to commit a crime in order to be arrested and then detained in custody. Eighteen months ago, I was arrested on a false allegation of asssult by my teenage adopted daughter, who has multiple mental health complexities. Yes, I am claustrophobic; I’ve not travelled in a lift since I was a child, for example. Having been very mentally robust person previously, I had a complete breakdown as soon as the heavy cell door was slammed. I did get to see the on-duty nurse who was the least caring health care professional I have ever encountered (maybe it takes a certain type of person to be attracted to this job?) In total, for complicated reasons related to children’s social care, I was detained in a cell for 21 hours. My mental and physical health will never recover, nor will my relationship with my adopted daughter who still regards the saga as a bit of a jolly jape. By the way, I did nothing wrong and the police decided no further action after my daughter ‘admitted’ lying about her accusations.

That's terrible! I'm so sorry that you had to experience that. And I hope that your daughter never does that again. Absolutely traumatic.

Wimwims · 07/07/2025 19:21

TheCurious0range · 07/07/2025 09:14

You mean like 70% of the prison population?

Are you comparing people who have been convicted of a crime and found guilty by a jury to any person who has been arrested?

I feel we should be concerned about the number of people - including those working in these situations - who think that only people who have committed crimes get arrested. Especially when, according to our legal system, all of these people are innocent until proven guilty.

TheCurious0range · 07/07/2025 19:23

Wimwims · 07/07/2025 19:21

Are you comparing people who have been convicted of a crime and found guilty by a jury to any person who has been arrested?

I feel we should be concerned about the number of people - including those working in these situations - who think that only people who have committed crimes get arrested. Especially when, according to our legal system, all of these people are innocent until proven guilty.

Some people who are arrested are innocent, some are found not guilty (there is an important difference here) and some are found guilty, these are court outcomes. Police custody processes apply to all of them in exactly the same way, or should custody sergeants be second guessing who gets what treatment based on perceived guilt or innocence?

Wimwims · 07/07/2025 19:58

TheCurious0range · 07/07/2025 19:23

Some people who are arrested are innocent, some are found not guilty (there is an important difference here) and some are found guilty, these are court outcomes. Police custody processes apply to all of them in exactly the same way, or should custody sergeants be second guessing who gets what treatment based on perceived guilt or innocence?

You stated "Most people don't commit crime because they can't stand the thought of the consequences to others and themselves.... Incarceration included" implying that the way to avoid the situation OP is describing is not to commit crime.

When asked about innocent people, you said "You mean like 70% of the prison population?" which I assumed to be you expressing scepticism about the person's innocence.

Of course I do not think the police should decide or treat people differently. I think they should treat everyone as if they're innocent because they haven't been found guilty yet.

As part of being arrested, of course procedures need to be followed.. However, this thread is full of people referring to anyone who has been arrested as 'criminals', stories of ill-treatment, and advice to 'not get arrested'. In response to OPs concerns, people are saying that the unpleasantness is deserved because the person in this situation has committed a crime.

Surely if we're innocent until proven guilty, we should all agree that unpleasantness should be avoided besides what is necessary for the correct procedures to be followed? Incarceration as a deterrent is not relevant to those who have not yet been found guilty.

whitewineandsun · 07/07/2025 20:01

HauntedBungalow · 05/07/2025 22:25

No yanbu.

If you were arrested they would have to make reasonable adjustments including but not limited to:

  • transporting you in an open top van
  • leaving your cell door open save for when you require privacy
  • noise cancelling headphones to relieve anxiety
  • a safe space with neutral decor and calm, ambient lighting
  • a friendship bench
  • sticker chart for good behaviour
  • an officer designated "mother" you can chat about your feelings with

They need to reintroduce the laughing emoji. This is so funny.

whitewineandsun · 07/07/2025 20:03

ThePieceHall · 06/07/2025 06:08

I know this is a fairly lighthearted thread but please may I point out that you don’t actually have to commit a crime in order to be arrested and then detained in custody. Eighteen months ago, I was arrested on a false allegation of asssult by my teenage adopted daughter, who has multiple mental health complexities. Yes, I am claustrophobic; I’ve not travelled in a lift since I was a child, for example. Having been very mentally robust person previously, I had a complete breakdown as soon as the heavy cell door was slammed. I did get to see the on-duty nurse who was the least caring health care professional I have ever encountered (maybe it takes a certain type of person to be attracted to this job?) In total, for complicated reasons related to children’s social care, I was detained in a cell for 21 hours. My mental and physical health will never recover, nor will my relationship with my adopted daughter who still regards the saga as a bit of a jolly jape. By the way, I did nothing wrong and the police decided no further action after my daughter ‘admitted’ lying about her accusations.

I'm really sorry, that's horrible on so many levels.