To dislike being told to cherish the moments?

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And those sort of sentiments; it goes so quickly, you’ll look back fondly sort of things.

I have two children I adore but honestly I didn’t enjoy much about parenting until no1 was three and a half. It’s only now I’m seeing the light at the end of the tunnel and the youngest is two in three weeks. I work three days a week and I find my days off quite stressful and exhausting. But there’s so much guilt about not loving the days with toddlers and I don’t know why?

You might dislike it , but people further down the road than you say it for very good reason.

Yes. I have a 15 year age gap between my eldest and I had my youngest last year. People were telling me to cherish those newborn moments. They don’t last long.

Thank god they don’t. I found that to be the most depressing time. Unable to move from C-section., sore from breastfeeding and a baby that didn’t want to sleep. Now she can play and soothe herself, THIS is the time to cherish.

And I have older ones so I know I’m not going to regret feeling this way.

Try and enjoy 5 minutes here and there, most of it is a relentless hard slog! But sometimes, when they all wrapped up in that towel with the hood, or reading a book, or genuinely delighted by a butterfly ... try and bookmark those moments for later years. But mostly just hold on, grit your teeth and get through it. All the best op xx

And here I am with an 18 year old son who is independent and travelling to matches etc. My husband left when he was ten....he's been my sole focus since!...now I'm redundant @...I'd swap with you in a heartbeat girl! Treasure the memories etc!

Only the ones who have been there done that, and have looked back can truly cherish them times, not the ones going through it.
It's not easy so don't feel like you have to enjoy this time ... getting through it, is good enough ❤️