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To find this very irritating

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GermaneRomaine · 05/07/2025 14:20

I'm feeling really under the weather at the moment and run down, I'm just really trying to take it easy and shake the worst off before I'm back at work on Monday. It's the holidays, and the kids have been indoors all day and are really needing taken out. I suggested past two evenings my partner (their dad) take them out to the cycle track as one has a new bike they haven't had a proper go on yet. Didn't happen, he obv didn't fancy it, and I was too ill and feverish to take them out. Today he's off and I was hoping he might take them out, I asked what his plans were, said he didn't have any, it'll probably just be a day of mooching about the house then. So I figured I was feeling well and able enough to do a short walk with them, OH says he'd like to come too. AIBU to be so irritated by this? It's always been like this, it's like he doesn't really enjoy taking them out on their own but always wants to join us when going out anyway. I do love doing things all of us as a family, but today I really just wanted to sit in bed and crochet and maybe do some batch cooking for the week ahead - none of which benefit the kids. I don't see why I have to insist he takes them out - sometimes it better if the kids get the benefit of a run around and a parent gets the benefit of an empty house. If he wanted to go for a walk with them why doesn't he just take them, if he's there anyway I can be left in peace at home to feel grumpy and sorry for myself.. ugh I'm pathetic. He's otherwise very lovely. Its just when he's unwell I always take them out so he gets peace.

Tldr: AIBU for being annoyed when I drop hints (or directly say) that the kids could do with a run around outside, nothing happens, and when I get my boots on to go he decides he wants to come too.

OP posts:
PonyPatter44 · 05/07/2025 14:22

Just tell him straight,"I feel like crap, Dave, please take the kids out for three hours so I can have a rest. Thanks! ".

Largestlegocollectionever · 05/07/2025 14:23

He’s being selfish and lazy.

Id share this thread with him and ask him to step up more. It’s not ok what he does, he’s being a cop out.

Foodylicious · 05/07/2025 14:24

Yeah, I'd be annoyed too.
I am however able to ask my OH to take the kids out for a couple of hours if I need a bit of a break and/or they need to get out and I'm not well enough.
Have you asked him directly instead of dropping hints?
"Im feeling really crappy today, would you mind taking them out for a couple of hours so I can X?"

GermaneRomaine · 05/07/2025 14:25

Foodylicious · 05/07/2025 14:24

Yeah, I'd be annoyed too.
I am however able to ask my OH to take the kids out for a couple of hours if I need a bit of a break and/or they need to get out and I'm not well enough.
Have you asked him directly instead of dropping hints?
"Im feeling really crappy today, would you mind taking them out for a couple of hours so I can X?"

I did the previous two evenings so I didn't think I needed to keep asking and asking

OP posts:
toomuchfaff · 05/07/2025 18:30

PonyPatter44 · 05/07/2025 14:22

Just tell him straight,"I feel like crap, Dave, please take the kids out for three hours so I can have a rest. Thanks! ".

first post nails it.

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