Dating!

[WaffleHouse7]

Went on a first date with a guy (36y) and it went well, we had a connection and he was quite forward, kissing me a few times, I was attracted to him.

We have planned to meet in a few days, which I’m looking forward to, but he has been very full on since, texting me a lot, sending me selfies of him (like multiple a day) I’ve only sent 2. Phone calls. He’s been saying he really fancies me (told me this lots) and can’t wait to see me, and turns chat jokey, sexual sometimes. I can’t help feel that I’m getting put off by this. I don’t like clingy guys and I’m scared to get attached too soon as I might get hurt (happened before). But the same time I’ve been dating for over a year and it’s so hard to find a nice guy and I don’t want to just give up with him when it could turn into something good, maybe he is just excited?

Am I being unreasonable to be put off by this? Or should I be happy that someone really likes me and see how it goes?

Although having just voted, I met someone OLD, we chatted for months and finally met up about 3 months later at a neutral, public place.
After that he pestered me for a second date, which was difficult due to our work schedules. We met up again about 6 weeks later.
Fast forward: I saw him again yesterday, spark still there, chat still there, connection still there, but after 19 years, no idea!
Obviously we have been seeing one another fairly regularly over the 19 years.

I felt claustrophobic reading your post OP. Love bombing or clingy. Tread carefully.

Sounds quite full on, if it‘s putting you off then don’t fight that feeling.
Meet up for 2nd date and see how it goes?

Don’t let him stream roll you into things moving more quickly than you’re ready for. But I’d probably go for the second date and see how it pans out.

Hi @WaffleHouse7
I met someone OLD twelve months ago ad sounds very similar and I think I was over cautious. He lived by himself and think, with hindsight, dating/finding someone compatable made him seem too "full on" for me. (I am a single mum with a busy household and work, have pets).

He kept trying to fast track eg bought tickets for gigs which would involve me staying over at his only few weeks into dating. I had told him I wanted to get to know him before taking relationship further - enjoy dating but no pressure. He wanted to message constantly, phone call each eve. He did nothing "wrong" but the pace was all wrong for me.

He did seem to hear my concerns but didnt adjust his behaviour so that was the end for me. Shame as he had loads of good qualities but I need to know he hears me and acts on that, if the relationship has a chance.

Express your concerns and see what they do? Dont blow him out until he has had chance to adjust his approach x