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Would you complain to PALs?

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BananaBum · 04/07/2025 18:38

I have been in A&E with a relative within the last few days. We waited 24+ hours for a bed so saw quite a lot of staff. One particular shift they were very inattentive and I kid you not when I say it felt they were actively trying to ignore the patients.

Some of the staff at the Nurses station were loudly gossiping about a colleague on another area/ward(not sure how it works but you could tell they knew her well) They were talking about the fact that she was pregnant and had so much time off etc.. but then one of the nurses was saying “but I’m not even supposed to know so don’t say anything. She’s only 10 weeks” etc

The whole waiting room heard! They used this woman’s full name, where she worked…

that can’t be right surely.

Complaint feels a bit like overkill, it doesn’t affect me and I wasn’t even the patient waiting. I don’t know the person they were talking about. But it feels like this poor lady has had her personal information shared very publicly and I would be mortified if that was me.

Would they laugh me out of PALS or is it worth it?

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Wowzel · 04/07/2025 18:39

As a matron in a&e I would want to know about this.

Isitmeyourecookingfor · 04/07/2025 18:40

Yes speak to PALS. Not professional at all

BananaBum · 04/07/2025 18:41

Wowzel · 04/07/2025 18:39

As a matron in a&e I would want to know about this.

That’s good to know. I have an email ready to go that I was really hesitating about sending. I thought they might not be bothered if I was not the patient/ think we were just cranky after waiting for such a long time.

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basketballcricketball · 04/07/2025 18:42

I wouldn't label it as a complaint but I would definitely give it as feedback. Explain how it felt when you felt ignored but the staff found time for personal conversations.

BananaBum · 04/07/2025 18:45

basketballcricketball · 04/07/2025 18:42

I wouldn't label it as a complaint but I would definitely give it as feedback. Explain how it felt when you felt ignored but the staff found time for personal conversations.

It’s not so much about feeling ignored over personal conversations.. more that they should be used to handling things in a sensitive manner and you’d think they would think twice about gossiping about a colleagues pregnancy in front of a while waiting room. What if I was her sister, for example.

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Wingedharpy · 04/07/2025 18:47

BananaBum · 04/07/2025 18:45

It’s not so much about feeling ignored over personal conversations.. more that they should be used to handling things in a sensitive manner and you’d think they would think twice about gossiping about a colleagues pregnancy in front of a while waiting room. What if I was her sister, for example.

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Quite.
Sadly, the message it sends out is that the staff concerned are totally oblivious to the other human beings in the room.
That's not a good message to be sending.

BananaBum · 04/07/2025 18:54

Wingedharpy · 04/07/2025 18:47

Quite.
Sadly, the message it sends out is that the staff concerned are totally oblivious to the other human beings in the room.
That's not a good message to be sending.

I think the message it sends out is “you can’t trust us to be discreet with anyone’s information”

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BananaBum · 04/07/2025 20:41

I’ve emailed 😬😬

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Wowzel · 05/07/2025 10:56

BananaBum · 04/07/2025 20:41

I’ve emailed 😬😬

I hope I don't have an email from you on Monday morning! 😂

EleanorReally · 05/07/2025 11:01

good for you

BananaBum · 05/07/2025 18:00

Wowzel · 05/07/2025 10:56

I hope I don't have an email from you on Monday morning! 😂

Can you imagine 😂

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