To ask those of you who are estranged or NC with family by choice, did you worry that people at your wedding would judge you?

[PoisedLilacMoose]

Especially your partner’s family or extended guests?

If you didn’t have your parents or close relatives there, did you feel like people would make assumptions about you or assume you were the problem? I’m not asking for validation, I just genuinely wonder how people managed that moment. It’s such a public day but estrangement is often deeply private.

People that mind don’t matter, people that matter don’t mind.

It’s no one else’s business.

I am NC with my family but no wedding involved. But just to say that anyone who is judging you at your wedding (or anywhere else) can fukc right off! Don't give people like that a second thought - they aren't worth it. And the reasons are none of their business.

I really didn’t give it a second thought,I didn’t invited anyone from my toxic family. No one even asked

I eloped abroad to avoid the whole shebang.

No. DH's family are all very close so we're well aware of why my family wasn't there.
Two of his cousins sat at the back (unbeknown to us) ready to eject my brothers if they tried to turn up.

They also, again unbeknown to us, organised themselves so that DH's first MIL (he was widowed when I met him), SIL, and Granny-in-law were in the front row on my "side". It was a silent, but very very touching show of welcoming me to their extended family.

NC for this,

Yes, it really bothered me. They obviously must have wondered where my side were. I was worried they would see me as being the reason for the family not being there, though it was me that cut them off because they were cruel and toxic. Fifteen years later no one has ever asked me about their absence. Going NC definitely has its drawbacks.

Nah, no-one mentioned a thing. Didn't feel awkward at all.