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Lighthearted- I’ve worked my arse off on dinner, what will my family say?

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LongDroop · 04/07/2025 15:15

Decided I’m sick of Friday night takeout so went to the shops and bought ingredients for dinner. I’ve worked my arse off all afternoon cooking and preparing, I’ve got the nice dishes out, even made dessert. It bloody cost more than takeout and has taken hours. I’m really pleased with how well it’s come out. But I know I’m going to hear all the whinging- don’t want this/don’t like it/want chips etc.

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marmaladeandpeanutbutter · 05/07/2025 02:28

You are absolutely not being unreasonable! Sane in our house.

Thebear83 · 05/07/2025 06:43

I’ve got the nice dishes out, even made dessert. It bloody cost more than takeout and has taken hours

for a 4 year old and 10 year old ASD children that you know are very picky with food? Is is almost as though you actively wanted to be disappointed and then pissed off and grumpy OP

JustGoClickLikeALightSwitch · 05/07/2025 07:05

Even leaving aside the family members with ASD, I have slightly quit with nice family members because if I am serving x, y and z you can basically guarantee that one child won’t like x, one won’t like y and the third will have been given a birthday cupcake at school and have no appetite. We have a small rotation of about five meals they eat, including a roast chicken/chicken soup thing which can do two/three days, various fruits and to a lesser extent vegetables and I am DONE.

HopscotchBanana · 05/07/2025 07:38

Ah, there I was, all smug with DS1 who would eat anything, and it was just those inferior parents who allowed their children to do dictate meal times and food.

I now have DTwins, 5, and our Friday afternoon went like this:

"Guess what...pizza for tea!!"
"Yaaaaaaaay, we love pizza!!"

Said pizza is cooked.

"Mummy, I said I don't like pizza"
"Mummy, can I have pasta"
"Mummy, can I have the iPad and an ice-cream"
"Mummy, why didn't you buy school pizza, I only like school pizza, it's got pepperoni"
"Daddy would let me have the iPad and an ice-cream"
"Mummy I'm hungry, what's for dinner?"
"When's Daddy home? Can you tell him to bring ice-cream"
"Yes I CAN have just ice-cream for dinner"

We compromised on pasta. With chopped up pepperami, cucumber and ketchup. Gross little buggers.

LongDroop · 05/07/2025 07:46

@HopscotchBanana i was like that with bedtimes. Eldest slept through the night from 6 months old, I thought I was a genius! Other parents just weren’t following a decent routine, I was super mum. Then came the second who still wakes up at least once or twice a night and has never slept past 5 in their life!

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MrsSkylerWhite · 05/07/2025 07:47

A curry? Sticky toffee pudding?

Avengersassembly · 05/07/2025 07:50

What’s the difference between basmati rice and boiled rice?

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Minimili · 05/07/2025 08:09

I made a beautiful roast last Sunday, chicken, perfect crispy roast potatoes, chestnut and cranberry stuffing, Yorkshire puddings, pigs in blankets, asparagus, broccoli, baby corn and gravy.

DP always focuses more on the chicken but I love a roast with all the trimmings, it took hours and I made everything from scratch.

He asked if he could please have more chicken and less “other stuff” so I called him when it was ready to plate it himself. He asked me to take my chicken first so I cut a few bits off the breast.

The little bugger put the whole chicken (minus my few slices) on a plate and took it away.
He came back for a side plate and put a small slice of Yorkshire pudding, some veg, one pig in blanket and gravy on it and took it away like the cat who got the cream 😂.

he returned his plate to the kitchen with a small very clean heap of chicken bones and declared it the best meal he ever had. I now know not to bother with anything else, I’ll go to the rotisserie in the supermarket and just bring him home a chicken!

And if anyone is wondering why we eat separately (I noticed these things get picked up on on here) it’s because we are both cursed with misophonia.
We eat about 75% of meals together but when I knew he’d be gnawing away on chicken bones I couldn’t bear to sit next to him 😂.
It sounds strange but it makes the meals we do eat together more special and he is autistic and goes into a trance eating anyway so he’s a bad dining companion. He takes forever to eat his food and after sitting with him for 45 minutes whilst he ate a few slices of pizza and salad I decided enough was enough.

Your curries sound fab OP and that sounds like one hell or a lot of effort. You might not feel appreciated now but one day those words will be uttered “that’s not how my mum makes it” and you’ll know it’s all been worth it ❤️.

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TheAutumnCrow · 05/07/2025 10:23

Avengersassembly · 05/07/2025 07:50

What’s the difference between basmati rice and boiled rice?

Riveting fact: I use basmati to make jollof rice if I haven’t got the right long-grain, and it is steamed not boiled.

Apparently my jollof is simultaneously both ‘incredibly spicey’ and ‘not spicey enough’ according to DP and DS <sighs>.

Avengersassembly · 05/07/2025 10:43

TheAutumnCrow · 05/07/2025 10:23

Riveting fact: I use basmati to make jollof rice if I haven’t got the right long-grain, and it is steamed not boiled.

Apparently my jollof is simultaneously both ‘incredibly spicey’ and ‘not spicey enough’ according to DP and DS <sighs>.

I’m guessing the OP meant pilau and plain perhaps

Morebroccoli · 05/07/2025 16:52

It sounds strange but it makes the meals we do eat together more special

But given You both suffer from misophonia @Minimili surely you are both choking back vomit throughout the entire meal?

Brightmoonlight · 05/07/2025 17:49

How did you rate the meal OP? Did you enjoy it?
Do you think it was well made? Any changes for next time?

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