To think someone saying “I’m a chatterbox” is actually a red flag?

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In my experience, when someone announces that they’re a “chatterbox,” it’s not self-awareness - it’s a warning. They don’t know when to stop, they dominate conversations, and they rarely ask questions back.

AIBU to think it’s not cute - it’s exhausting?

To me it means: "I plan on talking over you, here's a heads up"

To me, it means that anything they may say that might be meaningful will get lost in the noise. Then they'll moan about people not listening.

It means be prepared to be nothing more than an ear hole service & don’t expect me to listen to a single word you say.

it is exhausting & rude!

To me a chatterbox is equally happy to pisten and to chatter when I have nothing to add.

However having said that I would not keep friendly with someone who always spoke over me.

Some people are more chatty than others to me it id not always a negative thing

I'm a chatterbox but I don't talk over people, and I listen. I think the fact my friends all want to see me regularly demonstrates that I am not annoying to hang out with. But I would call myself a chatterbox. I chat to almost anyone at events etc. My husband however is not, and would actively avoid talking to people at say a BBQ except for the ones he knew. I think it can mean that too. Another way of saying extroverted.

Incorrect use of 'red flag' imo. Red flags are serious things, being a chatterbox is a foible.

I work with a lovely chatterbox, she just talks more than average and tends to overshare. But if you tell her you need to get on she respects that.

Some people do dominate conversations and are very rude, but even that doesn't put them in 'red flag' territory, if it's not bullying/belittling/gaslighting.

Hubby sounds a misery and lacking. You can't get to know people if you don't talk.
Carry on being you.

I talk loads
I have lots of friends
I listen to them all the time
I'm just a naturally chatty person
Never been aware of it being a red flag

I'm a chatterbox in the sense that I'm always able to have a conversation with anyone about anything and everything. I listen, I ask questions, I bounce back, I relate, ask more questions and so on, just normal conversation really.

I don't mind being a red flag though, I have enough friends.

He doesn't want to particularly. He's not rude don't get me wrong he will chat if someone chats to him but he doesn't necessarily actively seek to chat to someone he doesn't know. Whereas i would sit down and if there was someone sat next to me I didn't know at a BBQ, Id probably say oh how do you know x then. Whereas my husband would just say alright and then probably only if they spoke to him specifically would they end up chatting.