I need some independent advice

[Lilypatch]

This is long so many apologies.

i am due to go to an Oasis concert tomorrow. I booked almost a year ago & told my boyfriend at the time of booking. He said at that time that it was fine for him to come with me.

Fast forward to yesterday evening, he tells me that he’s not coming to oasis as he doesn’t like them! Now my AIBU is why the hell has he not told me in the many months leading upto this so I could have arranged to go with someone else. As it stands none of my mates are free understandably due to the short notice. I don’t want to go on my own. Have organised to sell the tickets.

Really looking for some advice cos I’m so cheesed off about it.

In all other respects he’s great, really loving & affectionate, but he really struggles with doing something that I’ve paid for as he thinks that if we as a couple do anything as the bloke he should pay - we have had lots of arguments about this.

We’re both in our 40’s. No kids together.

Dumping him - great move.
Denying yourself a concert you were really looking forward to? Why? That’s seems very counter productive. If you’ve dumped him you may need to do more th8ngs in your own. This would have been a great start. Low pressure too - Nobidy at a big notices or cares who is with who or who is on their own. And they are all up for a chat.

He’s done it on purpose. If he’d said earlier about not wanting to go you could have found someone else to go with. He’s deliberately sabotaged your plans. This would be the end of the relationship for me.

The concert may be salvageable. I once had a friend cancel on the day due to illness so I put out a general appeal on facebook. I ended up going with one of my husband’s friends wife. We didn’t know each other well, but we got to know each other a lot better on the way there, had a nice chat, and enjoyed the concert together.

Just seen your update. Glad you’ve dumped him. Onwards and upwards!

Well done, onwards and upwards, and don't look back in anger!

Someone did this to me over Radiohead tickets. I managed to sell the spare one, but I lost money. I don't keep in touch with him anymore, I was furious.

Yep this. It was deliberate. Glad you've dumped his sorry ass.