to tell DH to cancel his birthday celebration??

[Disenchanted]

Firstly we were going to the museum with kids and BIL & family.

Then I got home and there was a message on the phone from FIL who had invited BIL (already) and a few others to HIS house on DHs birthday for some food.

Not bothered to arrange it with DH just took it upon himself to arrange his birthday without asking us what we were doing

So I seperatly told DH (who had not heard the message yet) that I would make food for us at home after museuma nd BIL and family could come.

So his dad then rings and DH invited him and girlfriend to ours swell!

After about an hour I get informed that now its not just BIL but FIL & girlfiend plus 3 other sets of friends too

Its going to be absolultly PISSING it down tomorrow, the plan was to ahve food outside as our house is tiny and theres no room for everyone to eat inside.

So AIBU to ask him to just forget it and just us do something because ...

A - I offered to cook for 4 ... not 10 (+4 kids)...

B- its going to be raining so theres no room physically for everyone

C- I am still suffering from BAD morning sickness and struggle to even make the kids sandwiches ..

D- After buying his birthday gift I only have £50 left in my bank till Friday and would have to cater for 14 people with that then have NOTHING in case of emergency for the next 5 days.

Im just stressed out

I would be chuffed if someone (albeit without making proper plans first) arranged something for my birthday. THen he obviously was OK with not having you all round his so presumed it would be ok to go to a public place with his son on his birthday? Am I missing something?

Public place?

No our house.

Forget the museum thats seperate.

I wanted to just have us and BIL for DHs birthday, but DH has invited 3 other familys and theres no room, money or space for them.

Plus Im expected to 'host' the thing like a trolly dolly when I feel like shite.

OH. Just jam then in like sardines and tell them to bring some grub. It'll be fine.

No it is not fair and yanbu BUT it would be a nice thing if you just did it. He obviously got a bit over excited, which is silly but then we are all allowed be silly about our birthdays occasionally.
It doesn't have to be fancy, do the mexican stuff you were talking about last night. Serve bottles of cold beer Sol or Corona, buy a big chocolate cake for a birthday cake, hell get colourful paper plates and napkins to cut down on work.
Can anyone help you?
And ask him to chip in for the cost, that is entirely reasonable.

Have you got Patio doors,or a back door straight into the garden? We have a Gazebo and DH wants to do a BBQ for BH Monday(??)As its likely to be raining,we are putting up the Gazebo right next to our back doors,off of the Conservatory,he will do the BBQ under there,but if we had a load of people coming,we could put some seats up under here,with the sides on.If food is a problem,you could ring your FIL up and explain you arent feeling 100%,and now theres more to cater for,could everyone bring a plate of something for a buffet.I've done this before and its worked well.

No nursejo, no patiodoors and no gazebo either.

Ok so if you cancel how will the rest of your weekend be?
If there is anyway you can bear to do it I really think you should. If you absolutely can't, don't.
I would definitely try to enlist help for at least one other family member

Ask them each to bring a plate of something and some drink. Does anyone have a gazebo you could borrow ?

Gazebos are now about £20,and are so useful,especially for things like this,and putting over paddling Pools etc.when its really hot.Whenthe weather is really nice and you sit out for a BBQ its nice to give people the option of a little shade.We are on our 2nd one now and DH bought a fold-up/pop up type so he's happy!Tell your DH that can be his contribution to you making his birthday so special!