Would you say this type of chat between school mums is intentional

[LuckyLu68]

If an over weight person was walking in front and then immediately starting discussing the fact they can fit into child’s clothing, 12-13?

It could be, but also very slim people can be totally dense! Equally they were possibly competing with each other and not even considering you as part of it. My very slim partner has been known to complain about small weight gain in front of much larger friends. I had to point out she was basically saying they (and I!) were too big when she said that and she was mortified.

No I don't think the vast majority of adults try to body shame almost strangers.

Thin people are allowed to talk about their body.

Who is the overweight person? A stranger? I don’t think we’re obliged to moderate our conversations in case a stranger might be sensitive about their body and dislike anyone talking about their own body, tbh.

Just another school mum on the drop off, that walk past each other most mornings

How often is this happening? If she raises the same conversation about fitting into small clothes most mornings, then yes, she’s trying to be obnoxious.

But equally, the school mum might be perfectly happy with her body and think she looks great - whereas you’ve kinda automatically assumed that because she isn’t slim she must dislike or be sensitive about the way she looks and feel so horrible about it that she would perceive anyone slim talking about being slim as a dig.

I don't know, it sounds like a snippet from a conversation they hadn't intended to be overheard. Small people are allowed to talk about their peculiarities.

I'd say boring rather and intentional. Also a bit weird, even when I was very thin myself I couldn't fit kids clothes, that's often a height thing. Are they very short??!

Can very overweight people be totally dense too?
What a weird thing to say.

A girls 13-14 at next tracks to a size 10 on adults. Children are often "adults" sizes by year 5. And they are only "adult" sizes because of VAT categorisation.

No. Two women were talking about their own bodies. It’s not about you. Most things aren’t.

I'm short and technically (just about) overweight by BMI (mainly muscle but some spare squish). I recently bought some jogging bottoms for my 12yo. They fell off him down to his ankles. They fit me rather nicely.

I'm struggling to see the issue here.
There isn't a size threshold on discussing clothes/ sizes/ bodies.

Well I doubt they "immediately" started discussing it because they saw an overweight person and wanted to shame her, no.

Also I can fit into DSD (13) clothes (joggers, hoodies, leggings etc). Likewise she can fit into most of my stuff. She's tall for her age and I'm a size 10/12. It's not that unusual, nor should it be offensive.

I think my meaning was clear in context, but in case clarification is needed I meant dense in terms of understanding how some weight comments can land with larger people.
Of course we can all say what we like, but assuming they knew it to have an effect may be wrong.

Isn't 12-14 years like a size 10 adult size? Totally normal conversation, especially if they were talking about trying to save money or something.

It depends! Were they previously talking about car repairs then switched to bragging about fitting into children’s clothes?

Or were they talking about buying summer clothes and one person said I know it sounds random but I find age 13 clothes fit me quite well and they’re a bit cheaper.

FWIW I buy children’s sized football shirts as they’re cheaper. It’s not a brag and I don’t think it makes me better than anyone else- just a bit cheaper.

This,am a total short arse and slim. So I can wear age 11-12 stuff and it actually fits better than petite stuff!

Is that something am allowed ro acknowledge about myself or am I clearly only doing it because have been in the vicinity of a total stranger and they're obviously a v focal point of my life?

Depends, I know some school mums who are pretty cruel and weird, I also know a lot who aren’t. It depends on the context… but I know a couple at DDs school who are sadistic bullies and definitely would do something like that on purpose. If they did do it on purpose OP, pay them no mind because they’re obviously losers. It probably wasn’t intentional, at least I hope not.

Why is she trying on her kids clothes? Weirdo