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to believe Rachel Reeves was crying because

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LargeDeviation · 02/07/2025 19:44

  1. she was upset when Lindsay Hoyle told her to keep her answers short

  2. she had an argument with Keir Starmer (possibly about her keeping her job, or about how to handle the inevitable questions about the new £5.5bn per annum black hole) just before PMQs

  3. Keir Starmer refused to say she would keep her job in front of the whole country. If he genuinely wanted her to stay, he would just say 'of course she's going to still be Chancellor' and that would be that.

  4. she is under immense pressure because she knows she will have soon to breach her fiscal rules, she knows she is responsible for many of the decisions that will lead to that, and she knows the how serious the consequences of her failure will be. We have seen recently (even just today) how vicious the bond market can be.

In short, I believe she was crying because of professional pressures (understandable ones, though largely of her own making, and about which I have little sympathy) and not nebulous 'personal' reasons.

If her parent or partner or child or grandparent or pet is ill the natural thing is to just say 'sorry, a close relative is in hospital and my emotions got the better of me'. Everybody would understand. You don't need huge reams of evidence but you need to give the bare bones of an explanation. She is trying to style it out but we can all see through it.

I will apologise if I'm wrong but long experience shows that 'personal reasons' almost always means 'I'm skiving or jobhunting' when a colleague in the workplace uses it to excuse their time off.

I believe it means even less when uttered by a politican.

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Needtosoundoffandbreathe · 02/07/2025 23:21

Dwimmer · 02/07/2025 23:17

I think the biggest, and perhaps most revealing, issue for Reform would be our increasingly partisan and activist civil service. Some people might be relieved to find blocks to Reforms policies put in place by them, like the council officer who refused to follow the instruction of ruling reform councillors to take down a pride flag. But such an actions would suggest we are no longer a democracy. Better a terrible Reform government.

Councillors are public servants, not civil servants. Civil servants are non partisan employees of central government who implement government policy and advise ministers.

TizerorFizz · 02/07/2025 23:21

No she’s not crashed the economy but the rich are going. No doubt about that. Many do pay their share and they are fed up with the constant attacks and others fleecing the system they put most into. London and the SE pays most in tax. Look at where pip payments are highest. It’s a way of life for some young people. RR knows the benefits are not sustainable. 1 in 10 people get them. She knows we cannot afford this but the backbenchers don’t care.

Dwimmer · 02/07/2025 23:21

Teaforthetotal · 02/07/2025 23:19

Imagine what the bullies would have said if she stayed away. I can't remember another chancellor being under such absurd pressure.
This is how women are treated in public life, take note.

All Chancellors are under absurd pressure at times. She is no different. There was no stock market crash. No pandemic. No strikes. No three-day working week or power cuts. Not crashing out of the European exchange rate mechanism. No credit crunch.

ddbb · 02/07/2025 23:22

CarterBeatsTheDevil · 02/07/2025 21:25

None of these are like what she was doing which was sitting on a bench listening to other people talking.

With the eyes of the world and the market on her.

OneFunBrickNewt · 02/07/2025 23:22

Meadowfinch · 02/07/2025 20:13

Because the person in charge of the finances of UK plc being seen openly weeping during the PM's questions hardly says "steady as she goes, safe pair of hands" to the money markets. It says "in a blue funk". She's supposed to be a seasoned professional. She clearly isn't.

Crying at work doesn't equate not being good at your job.
I thought the SNP response really made Kemi Badenoch look unpleasant.

indigovapour · 02/07/2025 23:23

TwoFeralKids · 02/07/2025 22:45

You sound very gleeful at the prospect of putting families in poverty.

What an odd thing to say. Are you quite alright? I would much prefer that the government was successful in its measures to get some sort of tenuous grip on the situation so that families don’t end up in the sort of position they’ll be in when the UK’s cost of borrowing becomes untenable.

I think you’ll find that it’s the people celebrating today’s bill having been gutted who are gleeful about the destruction of the welfare state as we know it. They just don’t realise it.

You can respond with more emotional nonsense but I’m afraid that the maths doesn’t care about your feelings or anyone else’s. If this continues then disabled people will be in REAL trouble.

MsOvary · 02/07/2025 23:23

Needtosoundoffandbreathe · 02/07/2025 23:17

Such hyperbole. Ruined my arse. I think you mean Davos, not the Dalek overlord.

is that your best point! Well done on the reasoned response 😂

OneFunBrickNewt · 02/07/2025 23:24

TizerorFizz · 02/07/2025 23:21

No she’s not crashed the economy but the rich are going. No doubt about that. Many do pay their share and they are fed up with the constant attacks and others fleecing the system they put most into. London and the SE pays most in tax. Look at where pip payments are highest. It’s a way of life for some young people. RR knows the benefits are not sustainable. 1 in 10 people get them. She knows we cannot afford this but the backbenchers don’t care.

Good riddance to the tax dodgers if they are leaving.....the type of people who leave because a centre left government is in power aren't the type who pay their full taxes anway. They are welcome to go and sponge off another country.

justasking111 · 02/07/2025 23:24

Izz81 · 02/07/2025 21:50

This, unfortunately. Working in the banking industry, her emotions were not a good sign. One thing they want to see no matter how choppy or absolutely terrifying the conditions are, is a stern face committed to getting the job done. Once you show emotion, youre not in control and if you're not in control then you could become unpredictable - right or wrongly, thats just how they see everything in that industry. This went down like a tonne of bricks.

I really feel sorry for her but then its not a job she had no idea about and thought will give it a shot, its a very public job that you work day and night doing and she should have known its not a job for everyone, its a tiring all consuming draining role where so much is out fo your hands and whats in your hands must be moved delicately or could make things a lot worse, spinning plates in a hurricane comes to mind.

She may have personal/separate issues but to me she looks absolutely broken and to see a woman in that state, for me, is always sad to see.

Banking is a sector that requires logic. Politics defies it.

ShinyHappyTits · 02/07/2025 23:24

placemats · 02/07/2025 20:28

It's a personal reaction that the leader of the opposition Badenoch made political and as Leader of the Opposition, she should apologise. But Badenoch won't.

It's politics. How was she supposed to know it was personal? It's literally her job to needle the PM and Chancellor at PMQs. I do have sympathy for Reeves but she should have chosen not to be there. By being there she's spooked the bond markets, plunged the government into crisis and ticked the country a notch closer to bankruptcy.

Needtosoundoffandbreathe · 02/07/2025 23:24

Dwimmer · 02/07/2025 23:19

Because she made it public by crying in parliament

Rubbish. If you were upset at work would it be okay for HR or your manager to tell everyone why? Of course it wouldn't.

TempestTost · 02/07/2025 23:24

EviesHat · 02/07/2025 22:56

Starmer was talking about Kemi when he said she.

Rachel Reeves came into the chamber upset, very puffy eyes like she hadn’t slept or had been crying earlier. She seemed quite perky whilst pointing at Kemi Badenoch during the first part of the exchange. It wasn’t until after Kemi noted that Starmer had been unable to confirm Reeves would be remaining as Chancellor that her chin wobbled and the tears fell.

Rachel Reeves may well have been upset about some personal crisis before entering the chamber, but whilst in it none of the front benchers could be bothered to check a visibly upset woman was ok. It was a man on the second row who leant forward and seemed to express concern. Starmer left the chamber without a second glance at Reeves.

So, my personal thought is that something upset her before PMQs. A gentle reprimand from the speaker pushed her to the brink emotionally and when Badenoch pointed out Starmer’s failure to back up Reeves, it pushed her over the edge and she realised that yes, she will become the fall guy if the country goes tits up financially.

As Chancellor she is responsible for fiscal policy, so the buck really does stop with her. However Starmer cannot be relied upon to stick to any promise he makes, so her job (even for someone very experienced in the role) becomes nearly impossible as there is no guarantee that any expected tax rises / spending cuts that were claimed to be in the pipeline and which she bases her figures on, will ever actually materialise.

Cutting the WFA was supposed to save money, this has largely been reversed and as more eligible pensioners now also claim pension credit, reinstating it for pensioners on incomes of under £35k will cost money.

Cuts to disability benefits was supposed to save money. It was to be offset for the most disabled by increasing the disability element of other benefits. Now, with the cuts largely reversed but the proposed increases remaining, this will cost money.

Both of those policies were reversed by Starmer when he realised they made him unpopular.

If Rachel Reeves has based her economic plans on a net gain from them she’s been given a shock these past few weeks.

I can’t stand the woman and I disagree with her policies, but I think it’s deeply unfair she’s become a walking target for Starmer’s incompetence.

Winning the last election was a poisoned chalice for Labour. I rather think being Chancellor is a job that will make anyone unpopular, 99% of the time, and people who take the job should be aware there is a high likelihood that they will become unpopular and no longer a viable elected representative.

In a way though, I do think that Labour is coming up against a reality that they don't often acknowledge when they are in aopposition. That is, there isn't, in fact, enough money to do everything they want to have done. And that even to do what needs to be done they need to create a lot of productivity.

Dwimmer · 02/07/2025 23:25

Needtosoundoffandbreathe · 02/07/2025 23:21

Councillors are public servants, not civil servants. Civil servants are non partisan employees of central government who implement government policy and advise ministers.

You need to re-read what I wrote. Local government officers are also civil servants and are required to follow council directions. One council CEO has refused to follow the direction of her Reform-led council in flagrant breach of democratic control.

EasternStandard · 02/07/2025 23:25

ShinyHappyTits · 02/07/2025 23:24

It's politics. How was she supposed to know it was personal? It's literally her job to needle the PM and Chancellor at PMQs. I do have sympathy for Reeves but she should have chosen not to be there. By being there she's spooked the bond markets, plunged the government into crisis and ticked the country a notch closer to bankruptcy.

Starmer prods and sneers at Badenoch every week. No apologies there. @placemats

Agree with you @shinyhappytits

dottiehens · 02/07/2025 23:25

Muffsies · 02/07/2025 20:08

I don't care why she was crying. She got emotional, like normal human beings do.

She wasn't lying to us (boris), she wasn't sleeping (mogg), she wasn't looking at porn (parish), she didn't have a temper tantrum (multiple).

There are way more concerning things for me to worry about right now. Why is this on AIBU??

If she were a Tory she wouldn’t get so much sympathy here. She is incompetent. There is nothing much to say.

OneFunBrickNewt · 02/07/2025 23:26

ShinyHappyTits · 02/07/2025 23:24

It's politics. How was she supposed to know it was personal? It's literally her job to needle the PM and Chancellor at PMQs. I do have sympathy for Reeves but she should have chosen not to be there. By being there she's spooked the bond markets, plunged the government into crisis and ticked the country a notch closer to bankruptcy.

And overeaction of the day goes to.....
What an overreach to say that Rachel Reeves shedding a few tears over a personal matter is going to make the country bankrupt.
I think Kwasi Kwateng did more for that.....

justasking111 · 02/07/2025 23:27

OneFunBrickNewt · 02/07/2025 23:24

Good riddance to the tax dodgers if they are leaving.....the type of people who leave because a centre left government is in power aren't the type who pay their full taxes anway. They are welcome to go and sponge off another country.

They do, statistically we in Wales are the biggest tax dodgers, benefit claimants. We must be better at filling in forms

Needtosoundoffandbreathe · 02/07/2025 23:27

MsOvary · 02/07/2025 23:23

is that your best point! Well done on the reasoned response 😂

Edited

Better than the tosh you've come out with. You can't reason with...

EasternStandard · 02/07/2025 23:27

dottiehens · 02/07/2025 23:25

If she were a Tory she wouldn’t get so much sympathy here. She is incompetent. There is nothing much to say.

Yep she’d be torn apart on mn.

lifeonmars100 · 02/07/2025 23:28

Jennps · 02/07/2025 21:55

Huh? I’m no fan of Kemi, but do you feel the same when Labour nasties call Kemi names - racist ones at that. Did you feel this way when Labour were calling Kwasi Kwarteng names for not being black enough, apparently.

Could you post a link/links for that? I follow politics and that passed me by. Sounds despicable

pinkingshears · 02/07/2025 23:28

Muffsies · 02/07/2025 20:08

I don't care why she was crying. She got emotional, like normal human beings do.

She wasn't lying to us (boris), she wasn't sleeping (mogg), she wasn't looking at porn (parish), she didn't have a temper tantrum (multiple).

There are way more concerning things for me to worry about right now. Why is this on AIBU??

I agree completely.

Needtosoundoffandbreathe · 02/07/2025 23:28

Dwimmer · 02/07/2025 23:25

You need to re-read what I wrote. Local government officers are also civil servants and are required to follow council directions. One council CEO has refused to follow the direction of her Reform-led council in flagrant breach of democratic control.

Councillors are not civil servants. You need to improve your research.

OneFunBrickNewt · 02/07/2025 23:28

lifeonmars100 · 02/07/2025 23:28

Could you post a link/links for that? I follow politics and that passed me by. Sounds despicable

I'd be interested in a link for that too. Thanks.

peanutbuttertoasty · 02/07/2025 23:29

OneFunBrickNewt · 02/07/2025 23:24

Good riddance to the tax dodgers if they are leaving.....the type of people who leave because a centre left government is in power aren't the type who pay their full taxes anway. They are welcome to go and sponge off another country.

Hilarious. Yes good riddance to those self-sustaining, money spending, job creating lowlifes that have been sucking up all the UK’s cash. Can’t wait to replace them with yet more boat people and benefits claimants. Do you often lack a sense of irony?

Chintzcardboard · 02/07/2025 23:29

I am the appointee for a disabled adult. 100% cannot work, has full time care.

Today, first time ever, I’ve had a call from DWP letting me know there will be a review of his Benefits.

The person who phoned was so inarticulate with difficult to understand English. I was trying not to be dismissive but they sounded like an overseas scammer. Every 3rd word was “like” and diction was terrible. I was able to confirm it was real, they had also sent a message via UC, badly written sentences - no capital letters where should be caps. Full stop mid sentence - ffs, who are they employing!!

I’m interested to know what they are looking for - want “all bank statements” for last 4 months and any other assets (none).

I hope they don’t cut back his bens, he does not live luxury life. And, trust me - cannot work.