Restbite?

[TheOpalFox]

My dads in hospital and lives with me full time I’m his carer. He’s got a problem with his heart
When he comes out, can we have carers or restbite or anything please? I have a disability and im
A single mom and I care for my son . I feel close to burn out. Thankyou

Have the hospital got any info about carers or respite? They might know who you can contact?

Respite I think you mean
Maybe need to look at putting a proper care package in place before he gets out

I think you may need to ask on the ward about a referral to adult social care if you don’t already have contact with them about his needs.

And if they start talking about discharging him, ask them exactly what care is going to be needed and, if it is more than you are capable of providing, keep saying that you are unable to provide this care and need a package in place to help before he can come home. You may well need to dig your heels in, and it may be that the help they can offer is limited, depending on his specific needs, but the first step is to make sure there is an adult social care referral and assessment in place - the physio team should be able to help with this.

You're going to get slaughtered on here because the word is respite not restbite.

Is he under a discharge planning team at the hospital? They have the power to find carers or funding so they can get him out of the bed they need. Speak to them and don't agree he can come home until there's a plan for carers or a care home place for him.

It sounds like what you want isn’t respite which is a short break but ongoing domiciliary care visits. You need to contact your local adult social services department and request an assessment

The hospital should not discharge him without an ‘enablement package’ if he is unable to be independent.

Which gives you time to contact Adult Services and ask for an assessment.

You need to be clear and assertive with the team at the hospital and with Adult Services that you cannot continue as his carer and need help.

You could also look at applying for Attendance Allowance which can be used towards extra carers, a cleaner, Gardner or anything you / your Dad like that makes life easier.

Nobody has 'slaughtered' op, because we all knew what she meant and if you have never seen a word written down, you don't necessarily know how to spell it.

Quite. And considering what it is it makes sense to start with rest!!!

OP you can say you do t have the ability to care for him and ask adult social services to put a care package in place. They cannot discharge him until the care is in place. I’d also urge you not to “manage” until they can help because then you give them the ability to procrastinate for years as if you are suffering in silence you and he are r their problem.

@TheOpalFox I think the difficulty you'll have here is that you say you are his carer?

If you are already registered as his carer, I'm not sure how they view this in terms of a re-enablement package.

One of mum's friends recently came out of hospital and because she lives with her daughter, she wasn't entitled to anything. Her daughter isn't officially her carer and works out of the home every day. But they still said that she wasn't entitled to anything. This might vary according to your location.

The adult social care team will be best placed to advise you. If you are officially his carer, then do mention that you have carer's burnout and don't feel able to do it anymore.

Respite not restbite
He would need a Care Act assessment and would have to have eligible needs. Ask the ward to refer to Social Services for an assessment