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Boyfriend inviting ex-hookup family to our hobby

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Ohikindamessedup · 01/07/2025 23:00

my boyfriend and I started a hobby together and we love it. We’ve only been doing it 4 months or so, so he’s really enthusiastic about inviting people to it, which I honestly don’t mind.

Yesterday he told me his “good friend” is coming. When asked who it was he just said a name and I said oh never heard of him, but thought nothing of it.

Today as we’re getting ready for bed he said “oh yeah Gary, he’s Gina’s brother, and…”

I walked off. Gina is a girl he said he was friends with a couple of years ago and then ended up sleeping together “once”. Apparently they’re no longer friends.

I’m not bothered about his past, but I don’t want to hang out with some random girl he hooked up with prior to me. I think it opens the door for her brother to then invite her next time?

Aibu?

OP posts:
Ablondiebutagoody · 01/07/2025 23:07

Cross the Gina bridge if and when it happens

Ohikindamessedup · 04/07/2025 20:23

He’s now invited him on a trip away with us and the other people we do our hobby with.

He KNOWS I don’t want this to happen.

“Gina” will most definitely want to get involved at some point, she already said to her brother

OP posts:
Ohikindamessedup · 04/07/2025 20:24

Is it really unreasonable to not want that messy past around me?

OP posts:
ThreePointOneFourOneFiveNine · 04/07/2025 20:32

It’s not a messy past. It’s someone he was friends with who he slept with once. Get over it.

Kreepture · 04/07/2025 20:35

If you don't trust him, why are you with him?

Cookiecrumblepie · 04/07/2025 20:35

Just tell him you don't want her to be invited. Your feelings are important. If he has an issue with it, you can always end the relationship.

JustAnInchident · 04/07/2025 20:37

It’s not a messy past, it’s barely a past at all! Come on op, get a bit of perspective and calm down a bit. If you trust him, and I hope you do or your relationship is, sadly, doomed, then why would it matter if maybe someone he slept with once in the past is near him once in a while?

Scarlettpixie · 04/07/2025 20:39

He isn't with Gina who he was friends with and once slept with is he? He is with you. I don't really see what is messy about it. Do you trust him or not? I have remained friends with a number of exes. Never been an issue.

MNpenisadvisor · 04/07/2025 20:41

Try getting over yourself.

CountryQueen · 04/07/2025 20:45

Goodness me. They had one shag years ago and it’s a “messy past”?

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