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Narcissistic behaviour

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notsurewhattodohelpme · 01/07/2025 21:37

How do you tell if a man is narcissistic?

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toomuchfaff · 01/07/2025 22:05

ask google what are narcissist traits, compare them to what he acts like...

Watch tictok videos about narcissists, you'll get loads, you start to learn the traits and can recognise them.

notsurewhattodohelpme · 01/07/2025 22:06

Thank you I will take a look

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toomuchfaff · 01/07/2025 22:20

What types of stuff is he doing that has piqued your spidey senses?

notsurewhattodohelpme · 02/07/2025 03:49

toomuchfaff · 01/07/2025 22:20

What types of stuff is he doing that has piqued your spidey senses?

I started another thread about him leering at young women, but there’s something else he done I can’t seem to get past, we went for a picnic, and he started watching a video of some person basically saying not to get fat, he thought it was funny, but I didn’t, I felt he was trying to say if I carry on eating like that I will get fat, he initially asked me what I like to eat, I said anything that involves cheese.

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toomuchfaff · 02/07/2025 10:09

notsurewhattodohelpme · 02/07/2025 03:49

I started another thread about him leering at young women, but there’s something else he done I can’t seem to get past, we went for a picnic, and he started watching a video of some person basically saying not to get fat, he thought it was funny, but I didn’t, I felt he was trying to say if I carry on eating like that I will get fat, he initially asked me what I like to eat, I said anything that involves cheese.

That enough alone is enough to dump his sorry ass. Dont entertain anyone who thinks its his business to comment on your body (weight, height, anything... its a recipe for disaster).

There are several reasons he would comment on your potential weight, and neither of them are good.

He's either doing it to make you paranoid, self conscious, no one else will love you tyoe shit...

Google says it better than me.
Insecurities and Relationship Dynamics:
Insecurity about one's own body:
Sometimes, a partner's concern about their significant other's weight can stem from their own insecurities about their body image or aging process.
Comparison and competition:
In some cases, a partner might compare their significant other's weight to others or even feel threatened by the possibility of their partner becoming more desirable to others.
Relationship issues:
Weight gain or a lack thereof can sometimes be a symptom of deeper issues within the relationship, such as a lack of communication, intimacy, or emotional connection.

Abusive Behavior:
Controlling behavior:
In some situations, expressing concerns about weight can be a form of control or manipulation, especially if the partner is dismissive of their significant other's feelings.
Verbal abuse:
Some individuals may use weight as a weapon, resorting to insults or derogatory comments about their partner's appearance.

notsurewhattodohelpme · 02/07/2025 12:38

toomuchfaff · 02/07/2025 10:09

That enough alone is enough to dump his sorry ass. Dont entertain anyone who thinks its his business to comment on your body (weight, height, anything... its a recipe for disaster).

There are several reasons he would comment on your potential weight, and neither of them are good.

He's either doing it to make you paranoid, self conscious, no one else will love you tyoe shit...

Google says it better than me.
Insecurities and Relationship Dynamics:
Insecurity about one's own body:
Sometimes, a partner's concern about their significant other's weight can stem from their own insecurities about their body image or aging process.
Comparison and competition:
In some cases, a partner might compare their significant other's weight to others or even feel threatened by the possibility of their partner becoming more desirable to others.
Relationship issues:
Weight gain or a lack thereof can sometimes be a symptom of deeper issues within the relationship, such as a lack of communication, intimacy, or emotional connection.

Abusive Behavior:
Controlling behavior:
In some situations, expressing concerns about weight can be a form of control or manipulation, especially if the partner is dismissive of their significant other's feelings.
Verbal abuse:
Some individuals may use weight as a weapon, resorting to insults or derogatory comments about their partner's appearance.

He didn’t directly call me fat or anything, but I just feel he could have looked at anything funny there’s hundreds of funny videos out there, why that one, which made me feel he was directing it at me.

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