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Neighbour has become really passive aggressive since we spoke to him about barking dog

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LemonLimes25 · 01/07/2025 18:29

A few weeks ago our next door neighbour (a man on his own) started keeping his dog in the conservatory overnight - we would regularly hear barking from about 4 in the morning through to when he’d usually leave for work at about 6.

Eventually we decided enough was enough and spoke to him about it. He seemed a bit put out, said the dog was struggling in the higher temperatures but that he would ‘sort it’, and we haven’t heard it in the night since as I assume he moved him to somewhere else in the house.

The issue is that our neighbour is now being really passive aggressive. He has a corner plot with a really wide garden, and all his patio and seating is on the side furthest away from our house. Our patio and garden seating is by his fence (but away from the area he spends his time usually).

It’s obvious when we are hosting friends for dinner and eating outside, there have been two occasions recently. Both times, he has stood the other side of the fence and had really loud conversations on his phone with a friend who was on speaker. One of these conversations was derogatory towards women, his friend was discussing someone he had taken home the night before and our neighbour was asking vile sexual questions.

The next time, we were clearly eating dinner on our patio table when he walked over to the fence and broke wind in a a really loud and performative manner.

I suppose my AIBU is whether we should have spoken to him about his barking dog in the first place - and whether his reaction is justified.

OP posts:
CeciliaMars · 01/07/2025 18:29

Just ignore him. He'll grow tired of being such an ass.

PickwickPaperFile · 01/07/2025 18:32

Ring cameras in the backthatrecordsound
keep a log in case he decides to escalate

AllrightNowBaby · 01/07/2025 18:34

Next time he does something like that, all of you laugh really loudly.
This is not the reaction he is looking for, so it may stop him.

Lmnop22 · 01/07/2025 18:34

What a weirdo - both in taking offence at something being raised in a friendly way and in his choice of retaliation!

Think you just have to lie low and hope he tires himself out with his inane behaviour

LlynTegid · 01/07/2025 18:39

The misogynistic conversations should be met with a response. If there is a woman sad enough to be in a relationship or a potential relationship, if she visits, I am sure you can let her know.

DontTrustBarbara · 01/07/2025 18:40

I wouldn't call that passive aggressive, it's just plain aggressive. What a vile man.

londongirl12 · 01/07/2025 19:15

AllrightNowBaby · 01/07/2025 18:34

Next time he does something like that, all of you laugh really loudly.
This is not the reaction he is looking for, so it may stop him.

Agree with this!!

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