Fed up with having to pay for dropouts!

[Youdidnotfindme]

Every single time. As usual before a big group event some people suddenly can't make it last minute so the rest of us are being charged more to cover the cost.
It's not ok, it happens every time. I can't exactly refuse as another guest can't cover my extra cost.
Why is this ok?

This is why people should be asked to pay upfront for things like this.

Agreed. Especially annoys me when I have never met the people who I’m essentially paying more money to cover for!

Unless it's an emergency/serious illness or something along these lines then I literally don't give a shit 'what's going on in their lives'. Sick of it being used as an excuse to flake out of everything.

I don't know the type of events you mean but it sounds obvious to me that people pay before it's booked. Is that not normal practice?

Demand payment upfront every time, surely. Especially if it always happens

What sort of events are these? But yes, money should be taken at time of booking, and if they can’t make it, they lose their money (if it’s something where they can’t get the money back for not t participating).

This is a hen do, I don't know why the organisers didn't ask for money before booking?
So me and others are now having to pay because someone's second cousin or whatever can't be arsed going.

I've never once experienced this.

Why aren't people paying upfront?

It's not just this, it's happened at a work event too. People always say oh i can't afford to pay it can I pay in 3 weeks etc. Which is fine but then the people cover the costs themselves and book it which causes this issue.

Same. What sort of events are you talking about OP? I usually always pay up front with anyone I go to events with.

I've heard of people having issues with things like hen parties whereby people think if they drop out at best they won't get their deposit back (but some cf try and get that too) without realising that usually it's the venue keeping the deposit and the remaining attendees still then somehow have to cover the increased costs.

Other than a small group of friends who I trust will pay in full as soon as something is booked, I always get full payment upfront now.

Baby showers, hens, work days out, stuff like that. Never had any of the above myself or a wedding but if I ever do I'll book it on the understanding that several will drop out last min.

And this is why I only go to pay upfront or pay as go stuff. I know it's easy for me to say now but it's as a result of so many bad past experiences. If other people don't organise stuff properly then draw your own boundaries is my advice.

So then you have to say sorry but you can’t cover the extra cost and you’ll also need to drop out if they want more money from you. They shouldn’t be making the drop-outs your problem (or expense!)

This is what I would do, I would state upfront that I can only pay X amount so if people drop out and it costs more then I too will be dropping out.

someone dropped out of my hen, but she had already committed. She had to pay up.

“I’ve accounted for the original price which is what I can afford. I can’t afford to pay for drop outs, so if the price has now increased, I will have to drop out”.

I sympathise OP.

But what I don’t get is…sure, if you have to drop out for some reason, OK - but why on earth would that get you off the hook for paying?

I just don’t understand how people can think they can dodge paying! Who’s organising the do? Have they even asked the dropouts to cover their cost?