To love the silence

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I watered the garden with AirPods in, just finished and it’s well Beyond dark, it was more enjoyable than sitting in the living room with DH and whatever kids are in house (we have 4 ranging from 27 - 13 the oldest 2 come with baggage partners grandkids dogs ect) grandkids stay over every other weekend, I’m really finding my own best company is myself and a good book. I have always worked around school
activities and drop offs, we have lived in 3 different continents with kids, relocated for the best reasons but come back ‘home’ for the family connection that I was missing, I have been really active with nieces and nephews but do you hit a stage where you are just burnt out from it all ? I still have 2 young teens to raise and I’m just worn out !

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Surely when you had another baby when your eldest was 14 you knew what you were signing up for

It's fine to want a change of pace and enjoy your own company. I have three aged 10 and under and I value the time I get alone. Just because the older kids had one type of childhood doesn't mean the younger ones need to have the same. I think at this point it's about prioritising. Obviously the younger ones need most of your "other people" energy ATM, then you need to work out what you have to give to your older kids, grandkids, nieces and nephews, partner, extended people. No reason you shouldn't be prioritis ing your own changing wellbeing at the same time.

Love this view on it o think I’m just feeling guilty for not doing as much as I did with my oldest 2,and I have realized they actually don’t remember a whole lot of culture or experiences I thought would stay with them and I’m just glad i can be lazy and not do it again

well My 3rd was one hell of a surprise, bit I choose this …. Sorry what was your point ?