Neighbours are becoming annoying..

[LilacPomPom]

Hi all! Hope you’re all enjoying the sunshine (even though it is roasting!)

I have a bit of weird one and just needed some advice about whether IBU about finding a situation annoying and wanting to complain to them.

A few doors down from me (there’s 5 houses on the little segment we’re on) there is a family who just seem to be quite loud and practice different behaviours that I’ve not really seen (apart from young children playing out and about).

They are extremely loud. Someone often returns home each day around 22:00-23:00+ with blaring music (even though their car windows are shut) and they stay in the car for a good 10/15 minutes with this music blaring. Normally, I wouldn’t mind but I have a 14mo old and I also work long days (12.5hrs) so just feel it’s a bit late to be blaring music. They then get out of the car with the music still blaring and have loud conversations (maybe through a door/window) with their family. One of the sons is a teen and I often see about 10 of his friends lurking around on bikes, blasting music from a speaker at numerous points in the day (which is ok as it’s daytime but just loud!)

The family don’t use their back garden, instead they all camp out in their front garden (a couple of steps and a path). The family then play cricket for hours in the everyone’s driveway, full of other people’s cars. I don’t know what I’m trying to say but I just feel this is really strange? It’s purely because the cricket games are loud, they use everyone’s spaces (we all have two allocated to the house) for the games, they have huge gatherings all the time which go on late and are crazy loud and just the obnoxiously loud talking and music late at night which has previously woken my LO up on several occasions as well as myself ahead of a 12hr shift.

AIBU to be getting annoyed by these little things? I’d like to say something but don’t want to cause any bad blood as I’m sure they are absolutely lovely and have a great family and fun time together - they just seem to be oblivious to others.

Are they from a culture that naturally gather together . Years ago I remember an attempt to integrate large numbers of Nigerians in my town. A talk was held and explained how they might appear to be loud or loiter chatting on the street but it was just a different way of living . I often wonder if a talk was given explaining our culture. Incidentally there is now 2nd generation Nigerians happily co existing here .

No you're not being unreasonable, and they don't sound lovely - they sound like inconsiderate arseholes. Do other people's cars not get damaged if they're playing cricket right next to them? I'd be fuming about that. I don't have any advice though, I'm a massive wet wipe with stuff like this. I know exactly what I'd want to say but never would for fear of reprisal! I'd likely just fume silently and plan to move if it was a permanent annoyance and not the odd one-off party.

AIBU to be getting annoyed by these little things? I’d like to say something but don’t want to cause any bad blood as I’m sure they are absolutely lovely and have a great family and fun time together - they just seem to be oblivious to others.

These are not little things. You are a very patient person, I would have gone apoplectic by now, I cannot stand people who are loud. To me it says ‘I don’t give a shit about anyone, my life is more important than anyone else’s’!
I am not a confrontational person but by God I would confront in this situation. Hope you get it sorted.

They are a South East Asian family, and seem to have different generations living in the house which I understand is typical for that culture. The few times I’ve made eye contact with them or walked past, they’ve been ever so pleasant so maybe it’s their way of life.

I silently fume every time! They used a tennis ball for the cricket so my partner tries to get me to focus on the fact it isn’t a real cricket ball

To be honest, I’m actually a little worried they may take it as offensive or even racist (which I would never intend and I’d still be writing the same if they weren’t South East Asian). That’s why I’m choosing to hold back the confrontation because I don’t want it to be interpreted as disrespectful to behaviours that fit in with their usual culture.