I just need some advice. I’m lost.

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Hi everybody. I’m posting here in hope of some quick replies, as I know AIBU gets the most attention.

I’ve come to a point in my life where I need to end my 8 year relationship. It’s not working, it’s not healthy, and it’s got to change.
we have a child together who is 7, who goes to school 2 minutes up the road from where we live.
We rent, and have for 5 years. I don’t work, and he pays for the big expenses, and has a universal joint claim to top up the wages which gets paid into my account.
I have applied for many many jobs, but complications with the relationship dynamic has meant I am unable to actually get a job due to not having sufficient childcare, and not enough time off to cover school holidays etc.
I have family that live about 40 minutes away, who would never see us go homeless, but it would also be extremely difficult to live there, due to everything we need currently being where we are now.
I will need to move out, once I’ve ended it, he will not let me stay here but I don’t know what to do or where to turn.
I have no savings, don’t work, and not really a place to go to.
please give me all of the advice you can, because I can’t live like this anymore.

I can't help you with advice on this, but bumping the thread for you x

If you split and go 50:50 custody he will need to sort out 50% of the childcare after school and have your child one day on the weekend. This will allow you time to work full time on his days and have a choice to work part time hours on your days or full time and pay for childcare. Hopefully this will mean you can accept some of the jobs you go for, and afford a place of your own and time to yourself.

Lots of people work with a 7 year old, you just use wrap around care and for the holidays annual leave and holiday camp. Especially if you're separated you take 2 weeks he takes 2 weeks that's only 2 weeks left to cover. UC isn't there for people with school age children not to work. If you are on low income you will get a large amount of your childcare back, up to 85%. As a single parent you will be better off working than relying on UC and CMS which he probably won't pay and they will do nothing about.
Tomorrow take yourself to the council and present as homeless for you and your child, if he is abusive which it sounds like he might be, tell them that. It's not going to be a miracle solution but it gets the ball rolling.