Primary school leavers party

[Sickoflisteningmum]

The group chat has been driving me insane since one of the mums started it in January. How dramatic and over the top some of these women are and also how much time they have on their hands for a Y6 party for their precious offspring! There’s constant updates and everything HAS GOT TO BE PERFECT! They are 10/11 yr olds, they aren’t emigrating to Australia, they are just leaving primary school!

Christ I can’t wait for them to all F@*k off in July!

Leave the group?

I would leave the group. DS's primary leavers party is a couple of hours at school in the evening. Disco, games and pizza thing. School are charging £4.50. All fine. No need to get involved.

Leave the group, but tell them why. Overdramatising such an event is not good, and if they are projecting that to their child(ren) then it could be contributing to poorer mental health and bad spending choices later in their life.

Let them have their moment.

They obviously don't have much else going on I their lives.

Maybe mute the group

You can mute them if it's WhatsApp.

Jot down the date, time and place. Tell them you'll be there with the kid. And mute the group! And sigh light relief that you are not one of those types.

I had nothing to do with the groups, I stayed out of it. Try that approach?

Ignorance is bliss 😊

Muting maybe but why would she leave it, presumably she's in the group because she needs to be - she'd feel a bit shit if something was changed last minute and she didn't know, so her child turned up at the wrong time or not in fancy dress or whatever. I imagine all the photos after will be shared on the group as well which her dc will like to see.

Sympathies though, starting to plan in Jan for a party in July is insane. At least the end is in sight now!

Perhaps they feel the same way about you

Mute the group and leave them to it
Is your child going? If they are maybe be a little grateful someone is going to some effort to make it nice for them.

Leaving primary school seems to be a 'big thing' these days, its probably a sign of the times. There are seven school years between my eldest and youngest, DD left 15 years ago, and from memory there was an end of year assembly and disco. With my youngest there was picnic, plays, assemblies and hoodies etc.
Personally I thought it went a bit OTT but it wasnt harming anyone. Mute the chat and let them crack on.

I really hope so

Yes, the end is near you are right. I didn’t think I could mute it because it’s a group - I’ve just done it! 🤣 Thank you all! x

Crikey DS has just had his (Scotland) PPG paid for them to go to a trampoline park, parents paid for Pizza Hut afterwards. It was about 8 posts on class WhatsApp and lots of thumbs up.

Its a good thing people are taking the lead in organising stuff

I’d just let them get on with it, great to have some people taking the lead and giving their time to plan something for the kids surely.

I remember this so clearly with DS and am dreading it with DD soon.

The whatsapp groups were not as crazy as they could hav ebeen, but I was really bemused by the number of parents who were absolutely devastated and traumatised by their children finishing primary. I completely understood the slightly ridiculous hysteria of some of the children int heir final assembly, and I also thought it wasn't weird that some parents got emotional in those moments too. But the number o fparents who told me they were just really struggling and it was so hard etc etc... so weird.

DS is only a few years out of primary and he already barely remembers half the chidlren in his class!

We were all asked to volunteer in January - which I did, all who volunteered attended a meeting and all had a job at the end of it. Dead simple, so why all this fuss for 6 months I can’t understand.

Mine had been ridiculously over the top and is costing £70!!!!!!!

This is exactly what I’m talking about. I think people need to see it to believe it! Sending strength to you! X

Do lots of schools do this kind of thing? Ours don’t and never have so not something I’ve seen before, the kids have got a couple of yr 6 end of year school trips, a school summer fayre and they’ll get their white T-shirts signed but no big leavers party.

I’ve backed off ours as some mums were going really overboard as well and it was pissing me off, sick of talking down the batshit ideas!

I helped to organise DD’s leavers’ party which was a disco with snacks/drinks and a few decorations plus a mum very kindly made an enormous cake. After asking for volunteers, I made a separate WhatsApp group so we didn’t inundate the main year group with endless arrangements. Maybe suggest that to someone who is part of organising?

Some people do tend to get carried away and it was a bit annoying at times…but equally we wanted our children to have a leavers’ disco as that is the tradition in that school. It went really well.

I'm just glad someone else is organising it. It's nice the kids have something to celebrate their time at primary school.

That’s not the point. It’s the OTT approach to something that in years gone by was a simple affair. I can’t help but think it’s for social media.