We've just moved house. In the house we have DD10 and DS6. For context we moved here from a very rural place and are not used to having neighbours so this is new.
There are children in our new village, across the road there are 3 from 2 households simlar in age to mine. I love that there are children for mine to play with but they are here ALL THE TIME!
They are already in our garden when we get back from school I have to ask them to leave (firmly) so we can have dinner (and they spend the whole mealtime knocking on the door asking if the kids are finished yet), I send them on their way when we are getting ready for bed but they continue knocking until around 9:30. Weekends they get us up and are here all day. They help themselves to food and drinks (they do occasionally ask) and leave litter all over the garden. They play with the kids toys but don't let DD6 join in (he's SEN and comes across younger than he is). They wind up our dog to the point that I have to shut him out of the way. Yesterday one one them destroyed the small pond in the garden by smashing the pots around it (DD6 cut his hand) and filling it with gravel because she wanted to know if there were frogs in it. This was after DD10 retreated inside to her room for a break and DH and I had to repeatedly tell them they weren't allowed to walk in and through the house to find her.
I kind of lost it and told them they weren't allowed over anymore if they couldn't respect our rules (we have tried explaining nicely). DD and DS are upset because they think they won't have friends anymore and I don't want to start a neighbour feud but I don't know what else to do? AIBU?
For context the other parents do not seem interested.