If you and dh/dp work in same dept etc how much time do you give to work talk outside of work hours?

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So myself and DP work in same dept for the same company, he is management and I am one step down and I work for the dept in a role that only I hold. (Usually 1 or 2 of my role per dept iyswim) but we are obviously very much interlinked and I work alongside him a lot. Sometimes he knows things before me…naturally…as he is management and when he is stressed he likes to talk and obviously he would like to talk to me. So he does…and this is great as that’s what other halves are for. My question is I suppose, how long should I give him(and vice versa as my role comes with its own frustrations) I was thinking we should talk/vent in the car and then be done once we get home. Or if we are out in a walk then talk etc and try not to speak of work at home. If you are in the same situation what do you do?

No one? 🤣

We used to be.

Limiting it to the car journey home is a good idea.

If one of you really needs to talk over the weekend, then set a time formally - like on a walk or over lunch - and then leave it there.

It’s important to manage it

@theunbreakablecleopatrajones thank you. It really is, I find depending on what’s going on at work it can take over and neither of us want that 😅 I think outside of the house is the important factor yeah!

Me and DP work in the same dept, around the same people but different roles. We’ll have a moan during breaks/in the car home but we try to forget about it once we’ve clocked out. We will tell the odd story or have a gossip on our days off but we stay mindful not to spend too much time talking about work when we’re not there.

Yes I think it’s hard sometimes about some things as DP being management he knows about things a bit before me so for him he gets a bit torn on what he should/could tell me ahead of others (which could have issues) but if he’s stressed I can’t help if I don’t know the full backstory as such. It’s definitely something that we need to be mindful of.

Seems it’s not as common as I thought to work with your dh/dp 😅

DH and I own and run a small company so we work together all day. We do talk about work but try and keep to the period straight after we finish work for the day. As soon as we sit down to eat in the evenings, all work talk stops. It's more difficult for dh, as his phone never stops with work queries and he often works late, but its important for us that work time and family time are kept separate.
Keeping it to the car journey home is a great idea, or like us, agree to stop as soon as you eat your evening meal.

Thanks @TheNuthatch