just venting

[momager1]

I think I am not unreasonable, but open to the fact I may be overreacting. I have friends and family living in Canada and Belfast (belfast not an issue here) I live in the Dominican Republic now..young retired under 60. Anyway , have hosted many over the last few years. I am going to Canada in Sept for 2 weeks. I need picked up at Pearson airport and taken almost two hours to where they all live. I have offered gas money and a meal on way back to where I need to be and they live. Not ONE will come get me, so as I arrive late I would have to sleep on airport chairs till the first transport arrives to where I need. My son in law will come after his shift,, 2 hour drive after a 12 hour hospital shift, and four hours after I arrive. so.. all my so called "friends" That have time and just do not want to come get me, I will remember this. Thanks to my son inlaw.. Sorry...just a vent

Just my opinion but 2 hours is a very long way to travel to pick someone up unless they have issues preventing them using public transport.

A two hour drive in Canada isn't the same as a two hour drive in the UK though, I don't think most Canadians would think of that as a very long way.

However, you can't book a flight and just assume someone will pick you up OP. It looks like there are various daily flights going that route so you must have known when you picked a late flight it could cause problems. I think it's quite a lot to ask of someone, unless it's a prearranged trip to specifically visit them. You don't have to sleep on airport chairs... You could get a taxi.

yes it is..but these people have no problems staying in my home, having me pick them up and drop them at the airport (mind, it is only half hour away) never offer a penny for anything, and I offered money for gasoline and also stop on way back to my daughters for a meal. I KNOW I am being unreasonable. I will just wait the 6 hours for my son in law to finish work and come get me.. there is no transport between both areas after 10 pm except for taxi.. that is over 350 dollars. uggh. yes I know I am unreasonable, just a bit disappointed in some friends. It is also a Saturday, so most are not working the weekend

@owlexpress yes. I have been asked to come for a reason. I am coming to help a friend out. She has asked. I booked the most reasonable flight for me. It was fine for several friends and family members all offering to come get me, but once booked, radio silence

Book into the nearest hotel and get public transport the next day.

honestly.. I am not willing to pay another 300 dollars. That is what the toronto airport hotels cost. I am going to give it a few days to calm down a bit.. and if no solution, I am going to cancel my flights as I got cancel for any reason insurance. Just feel a little deflated that I do airport runs..cook for them.. lend them all my car..and do not expect anything other than a lift from the airport. Yes I am being a bit unreasonable. Just sad that my efforts are not returned

Cancel for any reason insurance? Is that a thing?

Well I think they are miserable sods. We would pick relatives up in those circumstances.

yes it is..with several different canadian carriers, but it costs extra. Can cancel up until just hours before flight. Do not get money back but get credit

The friend that asked you to come should pay for your taxi imo

You're not being unreasonable, they are users. Not surprised you're upset: I would be too.

Or arrange for me to picked up. If I was earlier in, I would get the ONEX bus to London (Ontario) but it stops running just before I arrive. It is only something like 40 dollars.

Hire a car and drive? It’s lovely that you’ve done it for others but you can’t expect it in return. Sorry, I know that’s disappointing but I learned this of friends in my 30s.

I am not willing to spend money on a hire car as it has to be returned to pearson, which puts me on the hook for it for two weeks.. or I can drop it off in london but the drop off in different city costs a couple hundred extra. I do not need a car for 2 weeks as I have one once I arrive in London ( one of our cars is stored at our daughters and still insured and ready for me as between husband and I we are up 5 times a year)

sorry. I do appreciate the responses .. Like I said, just feeling. L a bit sorry for myself and venting. Truth be told, I will prob be on that plane, getting something to eat and waiting six hours for my lovely son in law Like I said ..just venting

That’s awful OP your friend who you are helping out should be picking you up! I’ve been today to pick up my cousin's husband albeit it’s only an hour each way but that’s what you do for family and friends in your case. I totally understand why you are miffed

thanks all. I have arranged my car to be brought to the airport parking lot the evening that I am arriving..as a friend and his husband are going to a concert that night..so will drive my car up (as they are also driving..so will drive seperate until toronto airport area.. and leave it at an airport hotel.. I got the deal on the hotel for 135 but includes parking.. so i will arrive and stay overnight and enjoy a good night sleep and parking. My car in canada has the spare key..I have mine. this is prob the best outcome for me.