To ask what you do when a friend goes ‘weird’?

[sandybeaches74]

So I have a friend, who is meant to be a very good friend… but every so often (every couple of months) she goes what I can only describe as weird. It’s distant, kind of stand offish, almost disapproving in its nature sort of behaviour. I am getting so fed up of it. There doesn’t seem to be any really trigger for it, I’ve tried asking what’s wrong, giving her time, being cool… All of a sudden she will just kind of snap out of it but it leaves me feeling irritated and every single time I feel it breaks a branch of how close we once were. What would you do in this situation?

I had a friend like this. I stopped bothering with her. Please know you're worth and don't chase friendships with people who treat you like that.

This, really. Unless there's a reason this is happening in her personal or professional life or she has a health issue, this isn't your problem.

If someone in your life can't follow basic codes of decent behaviour it's not worth investing too much in them.

I would be withdrawing at least during these "weird" periods.

pmt ? Pmdd?

Don't know what age your friend is, but as it's a fairly regular occurrence, could it be PMT or menopause or similar? Or is there something going on at home, maybe a family member has regular medical treatment and she is worrying?

I would try to fathom out if there was a tangible cause.

Failing that, I guess it depends on whether you consider them to be a good friend at all other times, and can just smoothly take a step back when you notice a change in their demeanor.

An introvert overwhelmed with the frequency of contact, needing a breather? Are you incorrectly interpreting that as rejection?

I also have an ex friend like this, she continues to be weird because when I do see her (we live locally) she avoids me but makes a dramatic performance of doing so, so that it’s obvious she’s seen me. I still don’t know why she cut me out but I really no longer care. She was a taker.