For context within the last 10yrs our marriage was rocked massively twice by his actions.
Husband has a motorbike which is about the only thing that relaxes and makes him happy. But he doesn’t have a lot of time to ride it - twice a month. His new job commute is blighted by heavy traffic over the summer and he wants to ride his motorbike once a week. Which I get. He’s been looking at rucksacks but has concluded his current bike isn’t ideal so has moved onto a different bike with luggage onboard.
Yesterday he ran a quick errand but two hours later no sign so I messaged him. He was buying another motorbike not one with on board luggage but an almost exact replica albeit different brand and newer than what he currently has. So basically no solution to the current problem. He also has the dealership working out a package to buy a more suitable commuting one - raising his collection to 3 bikes. At this rate I think a chartered helicopter to work once a week over the summer would be cheaper.
I didn’t react nastily I just said you’ve doubled your current headache and will triple your collection. We have a big renovation at home that needs doing put off last year. And he’s spoken in the last 24hrs about my car changing. The money he’s spending plus the house job we must do will almost wipe us out. I said I felt it was an extreme and un-pragmatic solution to a possible one day a week commute.
He’s walked away from the ‘discussion’ because he doesn’t like my view / reaction, said he’ll have to cancel the orders and raised his voice at me and told me why are we together we’re so different…..